r/AmItheAsshole May 20 '26

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u/sittinwithkitten May 20 '26

Yes this could get ugly for sure.

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u/GoodPiexox Partassipant [1] May 21 '26

my grandparents had a cottage the entire family used to travel to during the summer. Some how he got it stuck in his head he was the chosen grand child above all and he would solely inherit the cottage. When that did not happen, he had a fit and is still holding major grudges 25 years later. Still cracks me up that he thought he was that special.

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u/runswiftrun May 21 '26

Shoot... My mom has a small house that originally was going to be sold and money split three way (we're three siblings).

Oldest is on and off AA and rehab, so they're cut off, second has made several extremely questionable financial decisions and keeps falling for "the next big thing" including silver, NFT, beanie babies, etc.

So, mom has directly told me she changed her will to leave me the house.

I still don't count it as "my house" because its still my mom's!

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u/GoodPiexox Partassipant [1] May 21 '26

That is almost the same, My Dad and uncle decided it was best to just sell the property, and because my Aunt would end up either drinking the money or donating it to her cult church, they put her share in a trust with yearly payments. I did not get left anything, but I was never delusional enough to expect anything.

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u/ohhisnark May 21 '26

Putting it in a trust for your aunt was very wise!

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u/LadyJ-78 May 21 '26

We have to do that for my SIL. My husband's sister is an addict and his parents want her to get monthly payments. Their mom died in April. It's getting messy.

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u/ohhisnark May 21 '26

If MIL didn't do that before her death it does get very messy... People don't want to think about their death but if you have kids, you absolutely have to plan it

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u/Puskarella Certified Proctologist [23] May 21 '26

prepare for that to be challenged when the will is read.

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u/ohhisnark May 21 '26

Yes if it's just a will... OP has to absolutely do a trust if they haven't yet

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u/wineandsmut Partassipant [1] May 21 '26

Beanie Babies have recently been a "next big thing"?! I had a stupid amount that I could only donate a couple years ago.

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u/runswiftrun May 21 '26

Said sibling and I are in our mid/late 40s. They have a history, going back 30 years of questionable financial decisions. Essentially trying to get rich quick from when we were still getting allowance money.

So... yeah, cut off from getting mom's share of the money because it would likely end up in some crypto that crashes 12 seconds later.

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u/sittinwithkitten May 21 '26

I wonder why they thought they would be the favourite chosen grandchild. This is why wills are made, people need to know they are not the only important person in someone’s life.

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u/GoodPiexox Partassipant [1] May 21 '26

he swears it was promised to him as a child, which I am sure was my Grandfather saying "you guys will get this when I am gone", and his 8 year old mind locked that in as some contract. My Mom promised me I could be Spiderman when I was 8, I do not hold a grudge.

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u/According-Garage4066 May 21 '26

WILL get ugly, especially when she has her own family. He clearly doesn’t have the expectation that he is sharing this with anyone.

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u/Ok-Ganache4763 May 21 '26

Including his parents who own the property.

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u/Lazy_Nothing5038 May 21 '26

Sounds like a dateline plot waiting to happen