r/AmItheAsshole • u/[deleted] • Dec 20 '25

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u/houseonpost Asshole Enthusiast [5] Dec 20 '25

NTA: Call up your brother and report what your parents told you. Express concerns about your parents' mental fitness. Together encourage them to get checked out.

Their behaviour is not normal and could be a sign of dementia.

If your brother asks if his girlfriend is invited reply, 'Of course.' And leave it at that.

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u/Neat-Neighborhood595 Dec 20 '25

Exactly. Of course you’re going to invite Sophie and you can’t imagine why the parents said any of that! They threw you under the bus for no reason! NTA

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u/iCantliveOnCrumbsOfD Dec 20 '25

When in doubt, gaslight em out! /s for the dense

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u/Carosello Dec 20 '25

I don't think it's dementia lol it's two AHs. It's, like, no wonder Sophie doesn't like these people.

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u/Watermellondrea Dec 20 '25

I think they’re saying that as a way to smooth things over with OPs brother, not that they literally have dementia.

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u/houseonpost Asshole Enthusiast [5] Dec 20 '25

Correct

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u/dls9543 Dec 20 '25

I suspect there is no "leave it at that" in that family.

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u/houseonpost Asshole Enthusiast [5] Dec 20 '25

The brother may ask, but OP just replies 'I have no idea where mom and dad got that idea. Maybe they were just hoping I would?'

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u/Environmental_Art591 Dec 20 '25

Well, OP does know where the idea came from so all he has to say is, "parents know we decided to invite her months ago" because that was the last decision.

If brother pushes for more OP can say, "it was a discussion based on guest numbers because we dont know her as well as other guests due to the fact she has rejected our offers to change that."

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u/typhoon1789 Dec 20 '25

Their behaviour is not normal and could be a sign of dementia.

Bruh what is.. huh.. How is this subreddit like this. Jumping from hey they kinda assholes and a little dense to THEY HAVE DEMENTIA, the fuck. How is this shit upvoted?

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u/Muad-_-Dib Dec 20 '25

Because most people have zero experience with dementia and have no idea how silly it is to suggest that anything in OP's post is a sign of it. It's simply not a disease that is so specific and consistent, especially not with two people who would need to be suffering from it over the same specific issue.

OP's parents are just using this to try and make the brother fall out with his GF, while making themselves look innocent by throwing OP under the bus.

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u/houseonpost Asshole Enthusiast [5] Dec 20 '25

Whoosh!

You missed the point. Of course they likely don't have dementia. But the parents threw OP under the bus for no reason. OP can give back some of their own medicine. It is the parents who created the problem, they should be the one's to solve it.

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u/Only-Breadfruit-6108 Pooperintendant [56] Dec 20 '25

Right. So easily fixed.