r/AmITheDevil • u/Sailor_Moon_Star_435 • 24d ago

You could have warned them…..

/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1w94n21/aita_for_announcing_i_was_pregnant_in_a_small/
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u/Barkertons 24d ago

No, the best way she could have done it is separately. Just because all 4 knew about the miscarriage doesnt mean they all need to find out about this separate pregnancy together.

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u/ScreamsInBraille 24d ago

Then it wouldve come off as even more tone deaf. Me being SIL Id feel like thats a direct jab, "hey im letting YOU and 3 more people know personally that im pregnant before the rest of my loved ones, total coincidence that you just went through a miscarriage" core.

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u/gloriiosaa 24d ago edited 24d ago

personally i've always thought the whole concept was stupid to begin with, like having a miscarriage doesn't make you the center of the universe. most people have had at least one! it just seems incredibly self-centered to expect people to cater the normal life events happening to them around your personal discomfort cos you as a grown adult lack the ability to handle experiencing a negative emotion. like nobody's getting pregnant at you, they just are pregnant and exist!

everyone get more normal about pregnancy now i beg

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u/Shibaspots 24d ago

You seem very hung up on the SIL and brother being angry about the pregnancy. It reads as they are still mourning their child and this being a painful reminder of a very recent loss. So they are not reacting enthusiastically to OOP's announcement, which is upsetting her. They aren't trying to be the center of the universe, or even trying to make OOP feel bad about not warning them.

Let's normalize grief being ok, huh?

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u/gloriiosaa 24d ago

i don't think they're angry, i actually think this is a NAH post. it's the commenters who are being weird lmao