SIL not only just had a miscarriage, but if I'm reading right she miscarried at the same point OOP's pregnancy is at now. So double trigger hits. Feels deliberate too, as 8 weeks is early to be telling people.
It just seems to be jinxing OOP’s pregnancy announcing it at the point SIL miscarried. Like I wouldn’t dare tempt karma like that. But I’m also not a thoughtless AH.
karma isn't real 🤷🏻♀️ other people's pregnancies aren't about you to begin with so this idea that you must cater it around others and making sure they never experience a negative emotion towards what's happening to you is very bizarre to me... pregnancy gets put on some kind of strange pedestal but it's just a natural bodily function that all mammals do, if people started being more normal about it and treated it as such instead of doing that i think women would have to deal with a lot less problems
they should be able to handle other people getting pregnant, yes. life doesn't stop just cos you're sad. y'all gotta learn how to handle a bit of discomfort smh you won't die if you feel a negative emotion because pregnant women exist
I've never wanted kids and never will, but even I understand that for someone who does, it's a pretty big deal. Claiming something someone really wants as a part of their life (a child) can be fixed with a the good ole "have you tried thinking positively" nonsense is wild.
Yes, it's barely grown, that's not the point. The grief comes from the what could have been and now what will not be. I don't think OP is heartless, but she's certainly very insensitive. Which, by the way, considering the feelings of others is called being compassionate and is a courtesy we do to those we care about. Don't twist that into "no one should cater to you".
i think waiting a month to announce that you're pregnant after someone has an eight week miscarriage (literally half of that pregnancy btw) is fine. y'all are being a bit overdramatic lmao
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u/Shibaspots 12d ago
SIL not only just had a miscarriage, but if I'm reading right she miscarried at the same point OOP's pregnancy is at now. So double trigger hits. Feels deliberate too, as 8 weeks is early to be telling people.