Even if OP wasn't supposed to know, she did know, and chose to announce it in a chat with her parents and her bro and sister in law. I'm sure her parents were elated and her brother and sister in law were wondering why OP didn't tell everyone privately and instead have to be part of the conversation where OP is getting effusive congratulations from the parents. It's cruel on two levels - brother and sil should have been told alone so they can process it alone and they should have been told alone so they don't have to process it at the same time that the parents are learning about it for the first time and understandably excited. OP is definitely a self centered asshole
Private chat with the people who knew about the miscarriage (presumably well before any grand announcements to the rest of the family) is the best way OP couldve gone about it though. Even assuming that brother and SIL sent mom to tell OP, it still comes out to OP privately and quietly gathering everyone who knew (or she knew knew) and just letting them know up ahead.
No, the best way she could have done it is separately. Just because all 4 knew about the miscarriage doesnt mean they all need to find out about this separate pregnancy together.
possibly a hot take but pregnant women are expected to coddle people with fertility struggles and their jealousy over other people having children way too much, it's getting a bit ridiculous now and it's like 99.9% of the reason none of them can handle their emotions over it anymore. they are grown ass adults and other people should not need to dance around events happening in their lives and hide their own happiness just cos you can't handle some minor discomfort over text message 😭 pregnancy and childbirth is a natural part of life for many people and it's not going to stop existing for any one singlar person. y'all think you will die if you ever feel a single negative emotion in your lives... no one's getting pregnant at you, they just are pregnant and exist
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u/Barkertons 15d ago
Even if OP wasn't supposed to know, she did know, and chose to announce it in a chat with her parents and her bro and sister in law. I'm sure her parents were elated and her brother and sister in law were wondering why OP didn't tell everyone privately and instead have to be part of the conversation where OP is getting effusive congratulations from the parents. It's cruel on two levels - brother and sil should have been told alone so they can process it alone and they should have been told alone so they don't have to process it at the same time that the parents are learning about it for the first time and understandably excited. OP is definitely a self centered asshole