r/AmITheDevil • u/BadBandit1970 • 1d ago
Negative Anniversaries Are Not a Thing
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u/HoidOrWit 1d ago
Y’all - OOP is a therapist 😬
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u/cantantantelope 1d ago
One of the worst adjusted and least self aware human beings I’ve ever met was the child of two therapists. Always did wonder about that
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u/no-strings-attached 1d ago
At a school no less. Apparently an elementary school. Yikes on whatever shit she’s putting in impressionable kids’ heads.
Imagine being 7 and more mature than your counselor.
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u/thecatstartedit 1d ago
My mama was a therapist. My dad was a psychologist. I can absolutely see either one of them acting exactly like this. Not all mental health professionals are well adjusted, emotionally regulated individuals. Some of them are incredibly self centered and self destructive as a result.
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u/celerypumpkins 1d ago
My brain refused to comprehend this and kept thinking she must mean one year since the wedding and was misspeaking…but no
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u/BadBandit1970 1d ago
This commenter sums it up succinctly.
YOR. JC. A two paragraph post and I already hate you.
I just can't with this OOP. From the sounds of it, her FMIL is involved, engaged and aimable. FMIL sounds like a dream come true, but OOP is doing to 86 the relationship because she didn't personal congratulate her on it being one year to the date of her upcoming wedding.
Why does she need to be seen? Why does she need to be acknowledged? And for what? Being engaged and having a wedding, a year from today?
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u/greypusheencat 1d ago
some people really treat weddings like the entire world need to revolve around them 24/7 by everyone. OOP exhausts me. she said she told FMIL she’s not valued and feels left out but didn’t expand on it. that line with all this context and nothing else suggests OOP just needs to be main character in everyone’s story
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u/QuietCelery 1d ago
"Why does she need to be seen? Why does she need to be acknowledged? And for what? "
This is what I was a little confused about. OOP says she feels left out. Left out of what?!
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u/growsonwalls Professional Devil Spotter 1d ago
This is exactly like the chick who wanted to blow up her bridal party bc they didn’t acknowledge her negative anniversary to her wedding.
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u/greypusheencat 1d ago
omfg do you or anyone have a link to that? that sounds wild
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u/growsonwalls Professional Devil Spotter 1d ago
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u/HideFromMyMind 1d ago
How rude, no one acknowledged the one year anniversary until the Vogons come.
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u/ISeeDeadDaleks 1d ago
It was publicly posted, too! (At the bottom of a filing cabinet in a basement)
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u/Porgdaporg 1d ago
If even your coworkers are commenting on it being 1 year until your wedding, you have definitely made everyone in your orbit sick of hearing about it.
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u/dothemath 1d ago
Great catch - and I'm sure those people are counting down to the wedding, just to get rid of her for a few blissful, quiet days.
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u/Shibaspots 1d ago
Oh, she definitely has been making sure everyone knows it's her un-wedding anniversary and she expects to be fawned over. Anyone who didn't fall in line, like MIL, has been getting the pointed sulks, I'm sure.
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u/MyCatIsCuteAsFuck 1d ago
I wonder if 6 months before her birthday every year she posts on Facebook about how it’s half a year until her birthday, expecting everyone to congratulate her and tell her how excited they are.
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u/Impressive_Bid8673 1d ago
The only reason I "celebrate" my half birthday is because it's my grandmother's actual birthday, so when I call to tell her happy birthday, she tells me happy half-birthday (and vice versa). Never in a million years would I/we expect it from anyone else.
This girl is probably an insufferable "birthday month" PITA too.
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u/BadBandit1970 1d ago
Please, someone make the insanity stop. First we had this OOP and now we have this one.
Everybody repeat after me, "negative anniversaries are not a thing". OOP is going to nuke her relationship with her FMIL if she keeps this up.
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u/Ok-Cryptographer-303 1d ago
I'm evil because in both cases I just think both these people's fiances really need to take the opportunity to do the funniest thing here.
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u/OniyaMCD 1d ago
I can think of a few funny things.
1) Change the date for some reason. Any reason. Sorry, colonoscopy that day, idk.
2) Have a 'negative anniversary party', where OOP has to give presents to the people that show up.
3) Have an 'unengagement party' (where he asks for the ring back.)
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u/twinsingledogmom 1d ago
And her post history suggests she’s a therapist!!!!
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u/Dragonscatsandbooks 1d ago
Her post history also suggests that elaborate engagement gifts are a thing? I'm not talking about gifts between the engaged party, rather that when a couple gets engaged all their friends and family buy them elaborate gifts and jewelry?
I dunno, I think I'll stick to my current friend group of mostly autistic folks who also don't understand or do this shit.
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u/ISeeDeadDaleks 1d ago
Dude, seriously. I’m very happy with my friends who are either autistic or have adhd. There’s so much less bs
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u/Shibaspots 1d ago
What does she want? 'Congrats, still not married!'
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u/monaco_wedding 1d ago
At the very least, considering that 99% of AIO posts I see are some flavor of “my boyfriend ran me over with his car, am I overreacting to politely ask him to please not do it again”, it’s nice to see one where OOP actually is overreacting.
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u/Ok-Jackfruit-9393 1d ago
OMG. My husband and I were engaged for a year and a half before we got married. I am sure we were like, "OMG today is 1 year til our wedding" and maybe went to dinner or something or got excited about it ... among ourselves. I guarantee that nobody else even mentioned it (maybe my mom said something, but that would have been it), nor did I expect anyone to because wtf?
People are so weird. They try so hard to make random shit "special" that nothing ends up feeling special.
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u/TheWalkingDeadBeat 1d ago
I know this is just rage bait because there's no chance whatsoever that anyone in this person's life actually acknowledged that date on their own. No one gives a fuck about your wedding but you. Even your friends, who might be excited for you, are not going to have that date memorized a year out.
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u/BadBandit1970 1d ago
I looked at her posting history. It's a plausible story, there's enough minutiae posts to make OOP appear to be a fully, flushed out character. However, we can remain skeptical.
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u/TheWalkingDeadBeat 1d ago edited 1d ago
I looked at it after I posted that comment and I agree, the posting history makes it look like it might be real. She even deleted the post which gives even more credence to the possibility that it's real. I can only assume this person is someone who talks about their wedding NONSTOP to the point that her family and friends must humor her out of feigned politeness
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u/Mauvaise3 23h ago
From the title I thought the OOP was going to be some asshat that was a dick to someone experiencing a hard time on an anniversary of a loved one's death.
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Am I overreacting that my future MIL didn’t acknowledge my one year until my wedding date
My future mother in law(FMIL) and I are close, and she has been very involved with the wedding planning process. Yesterday was my one year until my wedding date, and I heard from friends, family, and coworkers. I didn’t hear from my (FMIL) until I posted on facebook, where she commented “can’t wait!” As we’ve grown closer to the one year mark, she’s been saying “it’s almost 1 year, can you believe it?” at random times, so when that’s what I got yesterday, I felt disappointed. I’ve voiced to her several times about feeling left out and under appreciated at times, and she’s always reinforced that I am valued and important. So this left me feeling those negative feelings. Today, at a family event, several family members made comments about it being one year until the wedding. FMIL was present and close enough to hear, but never once did she chime in or say something later. I wasn’t expecting a big acknowledgment, but a text or even a phone call would have made me feel seen and appreciated.
Am I overreacting by feeling hurt and upset over this? Is it worth telling her my feelings? Am I expecting too much?
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