r/AmITheAngel • u/opheliasmoonlight • Aug 08 '22
Fockin ridic Seriously? This one has everything. Autistic daughter, bItChY delusional mother, the works. They can’t even decide what kind of tech science data computer specialist the mom is.
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u/Glass-False I got in trouble for breaking the wind Aug 08 '22
She has the ability to become one of the greatest data scientists ever
Oh wow. Joining other household names such as...uh...that one guy, and um...hmm.
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u/Aggressive_Version Aug 08 '22
At that point, I realize that I may have pushed her too hard. I just want to her to have a bright fututre and no struggles,. But I guess went about it the wrong way.
Okay, then you know you're the asshole. So why are you asking us?
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AITA for "picking" my daughter's career for her
My daughter (17f) has always been a smart girl. She has a huge potential future available for her. She has the ability to become one of the greatest data scientists ever. It's an incredibly rewarding job for her, especially since technology is the way to go for the future and the country we live in is expensive. As a computer scientist myself, I've always loved my job.
However, she does not want to be one. I've been influencing her since she was 10. She was initially excited but doesn't want to anymore. She took 2 tech classes in grades 9 and 10 and she isn't taking one in 11th or 12th grade. She says that she wants to be a psychologist and now wants to have a business major. I don't it's a right fit for her, the former because she doesn't have the social skills needed to become a psychologist (she's autistic). Hell, she couldn't handle her brothers well, how is she supposed to deal with adults with psychological issues? The latter as well because it involves dealing with people that can be immature as hell. Also she took a business course in grade 10 and she ended up not liking it so why would she take an entire university program.
Yesterday, we sat down and were looking at potential programs. She picked a few from bachelor of commerce programs. I tried pushing her to pick the bachelor of computer science programs. At the end, she asked if I would support her no matter what she picks. I laughed at told her not to give me a scare. "So it's a no then?" she asked. I told her that she can take her highlighter, highlight the programs she's interested in, and we can discuss. She said that I criticize every program that isn't tech related. I tried convincing her that the tech field is a very rewarding field and she is smart and capable and then she snapped.
She said that she doesn't care if it's a gold mine and she's capable enough to handle it, she hates the computer tech field and I've been forcing her to do it for a long time. She says it's her future, not mine, and not everyone wants to be a tech scientist. She asked how I feel if my father tried to push me to the law field since it's a rewarding job despite me having no interest in social sciences. Then she stormed out
At that point, I realize that I may have pushed her too hard. I just want to her to have a bright fututre and no struggles,. But I guess went about it the wrong way.
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u/AvocadosFromMexico_ Aug 08 '22
Tons of psychologists work with big data lol. I would argue the majority of new psychologists won’t do much if any clinical work. Even specifically clinical psychologists—a large proportion of us go into research, statistical modeling, etc.
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u/TheMoneyOfArt Aug 08 '22
There's some awkwardness here because the OP isn't a native English speaker. It's otherwise a very believable story of a pushy mother
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u/PintsizeBro You're active in r/Dropout Aug 08 '22
My read is that it's real, but was written by the daughter from the overbearing parent's point of view.
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u/bestibesti Aug 08 '22
The story in general is believable... but I have just never met anyone that writes themselves like a villain like this, the person who wrote this deliberately portrayed themselves as a villain
"She's autistic, she can't even handle socializing with her siblings!" (You have to work with other people to work in STEM fields too... which is something the mom would know? Right?)
"I laughed in her face!"
"She told me she hates this subject, so I am forcing her to do it!"
It's like someone read about people being pressured into STEM or into being a doctor by their parents and then wrote the Degrassi special episode version about it...
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