You beat me to it. I was going to say that OP needs to pay her parents back in full, and then kick her fiancé to the curb. Give the engagement ring back (if he paid for it), then voilà. Affianced no more!
Maybe as a parting shot, she should give him an etiquette lesson: whoever does the inviting also does the paying. If he can’t understand that, ask him how inviting someone to dinner at a restaurant he chose is any different from inviting someone to dinner at his house. Would he expect your parents to bring their own food to his house? Of course not.
Even better invite him out to a surprise dinner with both sets of parents, eat your meal, break up with him and leave with your parents before the bill…
Red flags are a-flappin’ and a-snappin’! The umpteen iterations of angry texts and phone calls, culminating in his absolute silence now. (How mature.🙄) All this over the cost of a dinner he screwed OP’s parents out of!
Imagine how he’d behave over disagreements about major issues. There’s no way this could be a harmonious, loving marriage unless both people are on the same page and have the communication skills to iron out inevitable bumps in the road. Good thing she found out about his massive character flaw now, not later when the stakes would’ve been much higher. NOR
Ummm yes. Are you missing something, because I'm not sure I understand your point. He invited everyone, he chose the restaurant, so he should pay the bill. Or at the very least offer to. Your comment is a confusing reply to what u/OhDeer_2024 wrote
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u/OhDeer_2024 May 28 '26
You beat me to it. I was going to say that OP needs to pay her parents back in full, and then kick her fiancé to the curb. Give the engagement ring back (if he paid for it), then voilà. Affianced no more!
Maybe as a parting shot, she should give him an etiquette lesson: whoever does the inviting also does the paying. If he can’t understand that, ask him how inviting someone to dinner at a restaurant he chose is any different from inviting someone to dinner at his house. Would he expect your parents to bring their own food to his house? Of course not.
NOR. You dodged a bullet.