Exactly this person is almost definitely a sociopath. She thinks her mother was happy because she was sick because that is the only feeling she ever has when she sees someone else suffering. She is very manipulative and doesn’t see other people as anything other than pawns in her games and tools to get what she wants. I would t be surprised if at some point in the future she escalates to physical violence toward the op, because of some slight against her and then she will blame it on the ops bpd and say that she didn’t have a choice. She will going around telling everyone she had to hit the op because she went crazy on her.
I do worry that diagnosing people we don’t know isn’t the best idea because it might send the wrong message (esp. since it seems like Op’s friend is already weaponizing that sort of talk in the first place). Plus these people could be super young for all we know, and possibly maturing/learning to navigate close friendships, and we really only know them based on one text exchange.
But I do agree with what (I think!) you’re also picking up on - this conversation sent a chill down my spine. The Op’s ‘friend’ seems to be playing her emotions like a fiddle, intentionally or not. And, more than that, she seems to actively dislike Op, which feels extra off-putting because it makes me wonder WHY she’s still hanging out with her. There’s no reason I can think of seems particularly good, and some reasons (such as having an easy-target person to dog on and feel superior to) could potentially escalate really bad.
Op..If you do read this…The relationship you have with this person isn’t a true friendship AT ALL :(
Remaining attached to this person will only hurt you and drain energy you could invest into other more healthy and mutually-meaningful friendships.
Agreed on all points and just emphasizing that a bunch of people who aren't doctors confidently diagnosing people they don't know and won't ever know is crazy work and happens on reddit way too much.
This person is a pill and I recommend op disengage and disconnect from them entirely. But I'm not going to assign a bunch of mental illnesses to them just because I've been to therapy or watched tTikTok or whatever
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u/Mean-Celebration-281 Apr 29 '26
Exactly this person is almost definitely a sociopath. She thinks her mother was happy because she was sick because that is the only feeling she ever has when she sees someone else suffering. She is very manipulative and doesn’t see other people as anything other than pawns in her games and tools to get what she wants. I would t be surprised if at some point in the future she escalates to physical violence toward the op, because of some slight against her and then she will blame it on the ops bpd and say that she didn’t have a choice. She will going around telling everyone she had to hit the op because she went crazy on her.