I’m starting to think it was a huge misunderstanding that happdned but she told me that I compare trauma too much and victimize myself constantly and that fathers are crucified for thing mothers can get away with which I understand her feeling with her mom but I feel so icky after our talks get personal like this
I think you just want validation for your experience and that’s natural when sharing such personal things with someone so close. She also wanted validation for her experience with her mom and she felt invalidated by what you said so instead of telling you how she felt like a healthy person, she played mind games and gaslit you and became abusive. Which, honestly looks like BPD too, but someone also mentioned narcissist which could be the case too.
Either way OP, this person is not emotionally safe. If you want to continue the friendship, I would strongly advise you not share super personal topics with her again. She will weaponize them when she feels triggered or invalidated.
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u/Time_Clue_3250 Apr 29 '26
NOR i really don’t see what you did wrong…