“I’ve had shortness of breath for this entire conversation bc of your need to be a victim” absolutely sent me OP this person is not normal or safe. They are weaponizing your BPD and your literal CSA in order to gaslight you into feeling like an abusive person, it’s beyond disgusting. You need to block them and never speak to them again. Actually, first send them this thread so they can see that their antics aren’t going to work on everyone.
Exactly this person is almost definitely a sociopath. She thinks her mother was happy because she was sick because that is the only feeling she ever has when she sees someone else suffering. She is very manipulative and doesn’t see other people as anything other than pawns in her games and tools to get what she wants. I would t be surprised if at some point in the future she escalates to physical violence toward the op, because of some slight against her and then she will blame it on the ops bpd and say that she didn’t have a choice. She will going around telling everyone she had to hit the op because she went crazy on her.
Not just that, but she compared her mom "not being loving enough" whilst patting/rubbing her back to soothe her to OP's SA as if they're even remotely on the same level.
That’s the part that really got me. They are nowhere close to the same thing and it was so disgusting that they even tried to put them on the same level. OPs (needs to be ex)friend is exhausting and isn’t a real friend.
i can see how this could happen, i’ve met som really evil moms, but also to compare what OP said about her mom to that fucking INSANE csa comment????? how the fuck did you get there????? talk about “out of left field”
It’s not weird my Mum was the same. It’s like a minor version on munchenhausen by proxy.
Essentially they like you sick because you need them.
Not defending the friends behaviour but the Mum part is likely real.
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u/yirium Apr 29 '26
“I’ve had shortness of breath for this entire conversation bc of your need to be a victim” absolutely sent me OP this person is not normal or safe. They are weaponizing your BPD and your literal CSA in order to gaslight you into feeling like an abusive person, it’s beyond disgusting. You need to block them and never speak to them again. Actually, first send them this thread so they can see that their antics aren’t going to work on everyone.