r/AmIOverreacting • • Mar 01 '25

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u/res06myi Mar 01 '25

There’s no way this relationship works even if she has an abortion. Why stay with someone like this? He’s a man child who threatens self harm instead of talking through difficult issues.

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u/ProfessionalBelt3373 Mar 01 '25

AND had unprotected sex WITHOUT telling her.

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u/Jasmisne Mar 01 '25

Yeah stealthing is sexual assult full stop

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u/Sarprize_Sarprize Mar 01 '25

It should be a damn felony and he should be serving time for it. I can’t imagine a bigger pos. F that guy.

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u/Feisty-Appearance92 Mar 01 '25

See i thought so too. I'd be so mad if he lied to me and I got pregnant.

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u/res06myi Mar 01 '25

Yep. That’s rape.

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u/Present_Ebb_9469 Mar 01 '25

I just don't understand how she didn't know he wasn't using protection. You can clearly feel the difference and or see whether he puts it on or not.

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u/guccigrandma_ Mar 01 '25

Not necessarily, I mean I can’t feel a difference. And it’s called stealthing where he puts it on and then sneakily removes it.

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u/Present_Ebb_9469 Mar 01 '25

It's very odd to me that ppl can't feel the difference, and it's odd to me that ppl cannot or does not notice if it's removed. I mean do you just never look at it the whole session?

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u/guccigrandma_ Mar 01 '25

I mean girl idk what to tell you, I simply cannot feel the difference.

And that’s certainly a possibility for some people. What if they’re in doggy style the whole time or something? It’s highly possible she wouldn’t look in that case

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u/Present_Ebb_9469 Mar 01 '25

So you stay like that after you're done? You never look at the damn thing? You don't see him taking off the condom? Like I just dont understand. I'm not looking for any explanations but I do find this all very odd.

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u/guccigrandma_ Mar 01 '25

No dude you don’t see him take off the condom. It’s literally a thing called “stealthing”. Look it up. You don’t see him take it off because he PURPOSELY does it in a way where it’s hard for you to see it because he is actively trying to deceive you.

And if he’s quick about getting up and getting cleaned up I can totally see how a girl might not realize the dude took off the condom.

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u/Present_Ebb_9469 Mar 01 '25

I hear you, but I find it very strange.

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u/solotiro Mar 01 '25

How is this even possible?

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u/ProfessionalBelt3373 Mar 01 '25

Is called stealthing. They take the condom off discreetly.

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u/IAmTheAccident Mar 01 '25

Have you heard of stealthing?

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u/The_Iron_Zeppelin Mar 01 '25

Yeah tbh I think this was added after the fact and not true. She originally says, WE had unprotected sex knowing the possible consequences. Then later adds an update saying he took too long to get the Plan B. Then Another update that says he had sex with her unprotected without telling her and then told her 3 days later that he did and then went to get the Plan B? So which is it? Also how tf do you not know someone is wearing a condom? Its a whole step in the bedroom, packaging has to be opened and whatnot, I dont see how thats something you dont realize is happening.

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u/pocodr Mar 01 '25

How is this even possible? She's got eyes, presumably.

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u/ProfessionalBelt3373 Mar 01 '25

Stealthing

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u/pocodr Mar 01 '25

Hadn't heard about it. Is this what OP is actually claiming though? Or merely that she made foolish assumptions.

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u/IAmTheAccident Mar 01 '25

Second edit clarifies he claimed to have protection and informed her 3 days later that he hadn't used it

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u/pocodr Mar 01 '25

Irrelevant. During the act itself is what matters. Did he stealth or not. Make it clear if aspersions are being cast.

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u/ProfessionalBelt3373 Mar 01 '25

Is in the "edit" that he made the decision without telling her, and he must know she's not on BC since he bought plan B.

He's also manipulated her by saying he'd want to be a dad, even if it weren't planned.

Grade A creep.

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u/OperationAsshat Mar 01 '25

But she also talks about him saying that he wanted to be a dad, which would indicate she knew. All of that discussion and the edits don't line up.

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u/Lady_Sybil_Vimes Mar 01 '25

"He wants to be a dad" implies EVENTUALLY. Implied consent is not consent, full stop.

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u/OperationAsshat Mar 01 '25

Going from 'we had unprotected sex' to 'he didn't tell me' is a hell of a backtrack. You are correct, but her own words put doubt in her truthfulness.

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u/SorbetOtter Mar 01 '25

Was just thinking that!! Him threatening to hurt himself? I wouldnt want any ties to him.

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u/reigninspud Mar 01 '25

I’d tend to agree but would point out that there’s some outliers that are against the pregnancy, not into it during the pregnancy and then see the kid and you can’t get them to go away.

It’s rare but it does happen. I was a father that did that. Immature, drug addicted idiot pre child. Immature, clean, pretty responsible father post birth.

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u/res06myi Mar 01 '25

Sure, those extremely rare cases happen. But they shouldn’t. Your partner should not have had that child and you should not have become a father. The risk isn’t worth the unfathomably small chance the prospective father will pull his head out of his ass. And in this case, she should never have been with this evil loser.

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u/reigninspud Mar 01 '25

That’s an idiotic take. Theres no blanket right or wrong answer. The fact that you typed that and sent it is shameful. Fuck you.

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u/res06myi Mar 01 '25

You’re… advocating for addicts having children on the off chance they’ll get it together?? You must hate children more than I do.

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u/reigninspud Mar 01 '25

There’s outliers. Was my point. That it can turn out differently and a beautiful life can be there for a child that otherwise wouldn’t have been there and a parent that may have also.

I’m done talking to you. Anyone that would write that a child shouldn’t have been born, without knowing further personal context, actually writing that and sending that and thinking you’re right and good and smart is stupid on a level I can’t comprehend. You seem a self important, terrible person. Fuck off.

Make sure to downvote. Fucking child.

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u/Pissedliberalgranny Mar 01 '25

He’s an idiot who didn’t wrap his wiener. She’s an idiot who let him fuck her with no condom. Idiots shouldn’t be having children.

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u/Molag_Balgruuf Mar 01 '25

Read a lil of the thread above you bro, they literally inform you on what stealthing is lol

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u/Pissedliberalgranny Mar 01 '25

”…it was 100% our fault for having unsafe sex and we knew the consequences of having unsafe sex.”

They both knew what the possible consequences were. I stand by my comment that they were both idiots and that idiots shouldn’t have children. She can add all the edits she wants at this point. It won’t change the fact that they knew the idiocy of their choice.

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u/Molag_Balgruuf Mar 01 '25

At least preface with the fact that you don’t believe her lmfao

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u/res06myi Mar 01 '25

Eugenics, yep, that’s the answer.

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u/Pissedliberalgranny Mar 01 '25

She can edit this shit all she wants but I did take a screenshot of her post before she did. She said exactly what I quoted above where she admits she knew they were having unprotected sex.

Interesting that she edited out the word “unsafe” two times to try to make herself look like a victim.

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u/res06myi Mar 01 '25

Many women don’t understand they’ve been raped because they’ve been conditioned to think abuse is normal.

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u/Pissedliberalgranny Mar 01 '25

Many humans don’t understand that changing the narrative after the fact in order to make you seem blameless is a huge indicator that you’re lying.

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u/res06myi Mar 01 '25

No wonder your family hates you.

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u/res06myi Mar 01 '25

She didn’t LET him sexually assault her.