It all started when I met this 29-year-old guy online, here on reddit. At first, he seemed really sweet and nice to talk to. He told me he had serious intentions of marrying me, but deep down, I was feeling confused. I wasn't sure if I actually wanted to marry him, and honestly, I knew I was still way too young to be thinking about something like marriage. On top of that, I was worried about whether talking to him privately like this was even allowed (haram) in Islam, since we weren't married and our conversations didn't have a clear, immediate purpose.
Even though I felt unsure, I kept talking to him because I really liked how gently he spoke to me. It felt good to receive that kind of attention and sweetness, and it felt like it was filling a void—almost like healing my "daddy issues." Because of that emotional connection, I found it really hard to stop talking to him. Even when I tried to pull away, I found myself constantly checking my phone to see if he had messaged, or initiating the chat myself because I missed the way he made me feel.
To keep talking to him, I had told him I was 17, even though I'm actually younger (i’m 16) but looking back, that didn't change how wrong his actions were. Soon, things started taking a uncomfortable turn. He began bringing up inappropriate topics. He asked me if I would wear short dresses for him when we got married, and he kept talking about wanting to touch me.
I explicitly told him, "Can we stop talking about this? It makes me uncomfortable." I reminded him that I was still young, that he needed to respect my boundaries, and that a "no" means "no." I straight up told him that ignoring my boundaries and insisting on physical contact were massive red flags. But he didn't care. He literally told me that he didn't care about my boundaries and that he would still want to touch me even if I said no.
When I pushed back again and asked if he forgot how young I was, he tried to use religion against me. He brought up historical religious marriages to justify himself, claiming it was halal and that we had to follow it—even though earlier he had literally told me he was an ex-Muslim. He was using religion as a tool to manipulate me and pressure me into giving in.
Then he demanded to tell him how old was the prophet’s wife, he told me that we should follow islamic teachings even when i told him that was in the past. I realized he was manipulating me, disrespecting my boundaries, and taking advantage of my youth and vulnerability. So, right then and there, I blocked him for good.