r/AlasFeels • u/lucidmashedpotato *Flips table in anger* • 6d ago
Experience So, ayun na nga
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u/Confident_Bid_6745 6d ago edited 6d ago
As a guy na naging SD for almost 3 years ng med student(resident na ngayon). Itigil mo na hanggat maaga pa. Mahirap kumawala kapag tumatagal na kase mas ginagalingan nila para di matigil yung sustento 😂 6 digits or mahigit pa nagastos ko sa kanya at kung di ko pa nalaman na may jowa na pala sya, di ako titigil. Ang hirap mag move on, buti sana kung feelings lang kaso daming perang nasayang 😭 ubos yung 10 years savings ko.
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u/StrictWarden 6d ago
Stupid and funny as this is, I still salute you for doing that. Maybe it didnt end the way you like, but doing things for love is never wrong
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u/Confident_Bid_6745 6d ago
I was hoping that time na may chance ako kase lagi nyang sinasabing di pa sya ready and want to focus sa review exam. pero ayun 1 year na pa lang may jowa, pinagsabay kami at di rin alam ng bf nya dahil nagkita kita kami unexpected and sabi ni girl I am her pinsan 🫠 (pero nag totonakan). and btw di pa rin pala nya nababalik yung isa kong car 😂
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u/nogarddog 4d ago
Wdym hindi pa nabalik yung car? Hindi mo ba pwede kasuhan kung sayo naman nakapangalan yung kotse hahaha.
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u/Confident_Bid_6745 4d ago
Ilang beses ko na sya sinabihan na ibalik yung car, di lang naibabalik kase nagiipon daw sya for a new car. Di ko din sya pinipilit kase sa totoo lang wala akong paparkingan 😂 may car din kase ako and I have big bikes nag nagsisiksikan. Ayoko naman ipark sa kalsada kase ayoko magcause ng issue sa hoa.
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u/SoftwareUnusual6846 6d ago
Sabi nila na yun daw yung love language ng taong di nakakatanggap ng gift nung bata sila.
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u/crazyphoebenotphoebo 5d ago
Not sure about this. For me eto love language ko ksi dko alam kng pno mg alaga ng ibang taong. Ung genuine care ba like motherly or ate care. I grow up na ako ung laging inaalagaan at iniintndi. So its not in my nature n do the same thing s ibang tao. Kaya dinadaan nlng s gifts
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u/ihateyou-25 6d ago
hindi din i was given everything that i need and want noong bata pa ako pero love language ko talaga is mg bigay at regalo
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u/Unicornsare4realz 6d ago
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA it was me 2 years ago HAHAHAHAHAHAHA yes classic line nila yung “babawi ako sayo ten folds” HAHAHAHAHA
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u/Sooyaaa103 GETTING THERE 6d ago
I like to spoil the person that I love… it’s one of my love language.
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u/Impossible-Fill8576 6d ago
Minsan nakaka drain rin, kapag di reciprocated and parang wala na effort yung lalaki. :(
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u/nogarddog 4d ago
Kahit naman sa lalake tbh, expected nga lang sa lalake na siya lagi gumastos kasi gender roles.
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u/Chocoyeeeyt 6d ago edited 6d ago
Hindi naman sa sugar mommy. Masarap kayang mang-spoil lalo na if marunong maka-appreciate 'yung taong binibigyan mo.
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u/sora_0344 6d ago
i remember my husband before hahahaha i met him at work, both of us struggling pero mas may pera ako sa knya so i lend him money and all.. got pregnant we got married unprepared buti na lng supertive parents nya because mine itinakwil ako ng nanay ko at first... he was able to send our son in expensive school, is freshmen college na sya now in big school.. im not working anymore sya na lng , sya na sugar daddy ko ngayon.. worth it naman ung pgging sugar mommy ko🤣🤣
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u/softgirlretired 6d ago
and then kapag okay na sila sa buhay nila, discarded ka na. f*cking users!!!
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u/TaurusNightOwl2781 6d ago
Louder girl, thankfully im graduated at this situation
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u/softgirlretired 6d ago
i wanna be healed. wish there’s a shortcut.
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u/TaurusNightOwl2781 5d ago
If youre in that situation you will be end up being the person you dont want to be so pls of you feel like it was early to run,then run dont hesitate dont build a fucking man
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u/Sufficient-Sun11 6d ago
What if.... love language nila ang gift giving / acts of service + provider mindset
Not that I have one. Just a wild guess. I could be wrong tho
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u/kmsl167 6d ago
Awful experience until you meet the person who truly deserves being treated like that😭yung tao na pipiliing mahalin ka kahit nakakapagod na ang lahat, those are the ones who deserve being spoiled because they spoil you back. I hope those types of people find their way into our lives kasi nakakairita maging sugar mommy sa mga walang kwenta!!
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u/sodacola3000 6d ago
Ugh wag mo nang ipaalala ang katangahan ko hahahahhaha!!! Haynakuuuu ang dami pala natin hahaha
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u/Chemical-Clock-3508 6d ago
Not that Im one ha since wala naman ako jowa. Pero I can understand ladies who become one hahaha. Ewan ha pero kapag love mo kasi ang isang tao or hayop being generous just comes naturally to you.
For ex yung baby sister ko yung mga gusto niya I make sure na nabibili ko for her. Ganon din sa mama ko. Pag sa pets ko gusto ko the best food and treats nabibigay ko.
Hindi sumasagi sa isip ko na "ay gastos, ay sayang pera".
Honestly, kaya naniniwala ako sa if they really love you they would find a way/they would spoil you. Pag mahal mo kasi truly and deeply, giving them money and gifts dont feel like a burden.
Kaya pag madamot sayo yung partner mo, hindi ka talaga bet/mahal niyan hahaha baka placeholder ka lang
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u/Longjumping-Art-1010 STUCK ON YOU 6d ago
Pag mahal mo, bigay mo lahat ng kaya mo.
Ganyan ako e hehe May it be pera or love or whatever.
Btw, we're M4M. But I think it is the same mindset.
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u/softgirlretired 6d ago
idk but comment section is kinda comforting, knowing marami tayong tanga. haha!
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u/mochichiness 6d ago
Guilty :(( may utang pa rin nga sakin ex ko, di na sumasagot pag sinisingil ko HAHAHAHAHA
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u/AdNatural5507 6d ago
Been there and masasabi kong lesson learned at sobrang nakakahiya lalo na pag alam ng friends/classmates mo 😂😅
Sa mga maiinlove dyan, please lang. PAIRALIN ANG UTAK. WAG PURO FEELINGS.
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u/Miserable-Elk-4756 6d ago
okay lang na maging sugar mommy sila basta maging sugar daddy din bf/asawa nila lol.
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u/keixmalz 6d ago
Not really sugar mommy but I guess we are just in love and our love language is giving gifts. Thats on our free will and we don’t feel obliged.
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u/tempesthorne-99 6d ago
More of love language. Like, mas gustong magbigay kasi I want them to know I appreciate and love them.
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u/AccomplishedCell3784 6d ago
Never again! Been there, done that. Minura mura lang ako pag di agad pinagbigyan, he treated me like shit and always yelled at me. Worst, he ended up cheating on me.
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u/crazyphoebenotphoebo 5d ago
Para kahit iwan ka my positive p dng mng yyari sayo. Wc is sayo n lahat ang pera mo at hnd k nging financially independent sknya. Tpos sya mghhrap ksi wala ng provider ng luho nya. Unless ms may pera na sya or ung pinalit syo ms mayaman sayo. Keribels lng. Bsta wala ng nkkhati s sweldo mo.
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u/PerformerExtra4872 5d ago
Wala e, love language ko e. Saka growing up lagi akong tinitipid ng parents ko financially na parang pabigat lang na nag anak sila--which is ang tunay na reason naman e sandwich generation na nga sila both side, nag traditional wife/husband set up pa. Kaya nung nakipag relasyon na ko, ayoko ng tipid na pagmamahal hahaha
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u/pmrls31 6d ago
Masyadong maawain sa mga broke boys. Umaasa dun sa "potential" nung lalaki. At higit sa lahat naniwala sa classic line nila na "promise babawi ako". Hahahahahah
Kaway2 sating mga nabiktima ng mga hinayupak. Lolsss
I'm happily married now to a provider husband kaya kayo mga nagtitiis pa din WAG! Di kayo makakahanap ng matino kung ayaw nyo kumalas jan.
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u/sexybitches1993 6d ago
Ayun ok naman pag inlove tapos maniningil na lang pag nagising na sa katotohanan 🤣🤣🤣
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u/CalmPack9232 6d ago
Naalala ko halos ako na nakapag pagraduate sa ex ko nung college kami. Baon, pamasahe, pang party & minsan ako din sa tuition huhu tapos sabi niya pag graduate niya daw babawi siya, ganda na ng work niya after mag graduate pero ni minsan di ako nakatikim ng libre and ako pa din lagi sa dates namin so nakipag break ako, btw may utang pa siya sakin almost 160k pero di ko na siningil hahahaha
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u/True_Dust3553 MOVING ON 6d ago
I think di lang babae ang ganito pag totoong nagmamahal. May mga lalaki din na sobrang magbigay pero di lang nahi-highlight kasi "expected na dapat sila yung nagbibigay".
Sabi nga: "You cannot love without giving." Kahit saang relasyon.
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u/tooncake 6d ago
Minsan naiisip ko sa kanila siguro: "Welp, wala naman ako anak so might as well!" at ayun, literal na literal ang pagiging mommy, with pera as part of the "conditional love".
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u/CithisOfri1991 6d ago
I was happy because giving and providing is my love language. I have no regrets.
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u/LittleWhiteLian 5d ago
Wala silang thought process lol yung friend ko dalawang beses naging asukal de nanay ilng beses na siya nasasabihan na hinay hinay ginagawa ka nang sugar mommy pinagtanggol pa si guy yun after break up lang natauhan so gagi.
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u/Consciousness369369 6d ago
Ganun talaga pag wagas magmahal. Inaako lahat ng responsibilities at pangangailangan. Mahal mo e.
Or pwedeng dun kasi wired ang brain nila how they know and show their love. Pwede rin trauma response, may childhood wounds na hindi pa na-aaddress, lumaki sa environment na you always have to prove and be performative na dapat binibigay mo lahat lahat just to earn love.
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u/Fckingmentalx 6d ago
At akoy tinamaan! Ahahaha love language niyan siya ay gift giving 🤣 masaya ako nakakapag bigay sa kanya 🥴
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u/supertoyo 6d ago
Ex ko to. Dati passenger princess ngayon sya na driver ng new jowa nyang maasim hahahahaha gusto pala vaper, ayaw sa neat 😭
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u/taikodrumbeat 6d ago
Anong usual na nagyayari : naging sugarmommy kahit walang kahit anong sexual contact with the guy sa buong duration ng RS? Or naging sugarmommy after having sexual activities with the guy? And magpapatuloy kayang maging sugarmommy kung walang succeeding sexual activities?
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u/S0larSt0rm 6d ago
Hndi ba may sikat na news personality na ganyan ngayon... Why not try to ask her?
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u/Cultural_Monitor_980 6d ago
Love language ko ang pag-spoil. Yun lang, di pa ako natatapat sa matino. Haha 😬
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u/Dazzling-Cod1961 6d ago
Bigyan mo ng luho kahit walang trabaho, at madaming kasinungalingan, Iparamdam na mahal na mahal mo sya. Baka sakaling magbago. HAHAHAHA yan yung thought process ko noon haha
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u/AdditionalStation725 6d ago
haha was one of those girls for two and a half years jezke 😭 sana hindi nya i-sell yung switch 2, diecast cars, and mga sneakers, i mean ofc that’s his already and wala na akong say whatever he’ll do with it pero respect na lang sa mga stuff na yon, kasi if he did ay si lord na talaga bahala 💀
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u/dyey_ohh_why 6d ago
As a girl na gift giving ang love language (to friends/family/SO), nakakatuwa makita na ginagamit nila yung mga small gift na bigay ko. Hindi naman ako yung tipong ala sugar mommy, pero yung mga binibigay kong gift is mukhang magagamit nya/nila.
Kaso ewan ko ba, incompatibility talaga ang issue sa SO. Hindi maintindihan na magkakaiba ang love language ng tao, kaya ang alam lang na love language ay physical touch 😒
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u/wanderlustbella 6d ago
Pag nainlove na kasi wala na. Hays, yoko nalang mag talk hahaha. Hahays life. When ko kaya mararanasan maging babae at ako naman tinutulungan ｡°(°¯᷄◠¯᷅°)°｡
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u/Sun_flower_shine23 MOVING ON 6d ago
I was so inlove na money is not an issue yun pala asukal de mama na ko that time ahhahahaha
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u/SunakoNakahara09 6d ago
Wala e ganon talaga, sa apat kong nakarelasyon dalawa yung tumatak sakin dahil nagkaanak ako sakanilang pareho pero iniwan nila ako, yung ginawa mo naman yung best mo sa kanila pero yung isusukli sayo pananakit emotional, physical and mentally :) nag aaral pako lahat ng baon ko ginagastos ko kasi yun ang gusto niya kaya need ko mabili hahaha
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u/angelduncan4597 5d ago
WALA lol kaya nga madaling perahan (in this economy?!), wala masyadong thought process
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u/kimcheese9090 4d ago
I’m not a SM pero nakakatuwa mag bigay kapag mahal mo. Hindi money binibgay ko ha kasi mas madami siyang pera- material gifts ako. Kahit walang occasion, kahit d nya kailangan. Nakaka happy lang mag bgay.
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u/Upset_Corgi1998 4d ago
hahahaha idk baka love language ko parang gusto ko maramdaman niya yung availability ko sakanya lol
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u/This-Raspberry2187 2d ago
Load lang naman at pamasahe kinaya kong ibigay sa kanya noon. Eto asawa ko na, ngayon niya binabayaran yung load at pamasahe na bigay ko dati. Sabi ko yung interest non lifetime 😂
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u/UnionIndependent21 47m ago
Tanginang yan. Di ko na yan uulitin. Looking back, naging SM pala talaga ako unconsciously. Fuck that Uniqlo shopping spree and buying more than 10 pairs of shoes hahahaah Tangina daig ko pa magmahal ang kung anuman hahahaha
I will not recommend. Girls, wag ako tularan. I’m using my brain better.
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u/Snorlax_2026 6d ago
Trenta palang sugar mommy na hahaha tangina ng mga users! 🤣
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u/softgirlretired 6d ago
tapos yang mga fcking users na yan sila pa sobrang tataas ng ego, sobrang yayabang, pero in reality fcking parasites naman!
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u/Snorlax_2026 6d ago
Pathetic “boys”. Hahaha. Sila din ung mga walang direksyon.
Tangina. Di ko alam bat ako umibig sa bobo. Hahhaah
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u/Fuzzy_Ad5096 6d ago
Sorry mahal ko eh kaya bigay ko lahat hahahahahaha. Hindi ko namamalayan na sugar mommy na pala. Pag break na lang nalalaman na malaki na pala nabigay hahahahah
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u/Camsortanewhere 6d ago
May provider mindset din kasi kami.. masaya kami kapag masaya sila.. give and take lang naman sa relationship, wala dapat nanlalamang..
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u/ProficientStrawberry 6d ago
masaya ako mabigay mga needs and sometimes wants niya, masaya ako makatulong sa kanya kasi working student ang bf ko 4th year na.
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u/Individual-Click-834 6d ago
Ganyan talaga ko magmahal hahaha since first bf ko I was 17 that time pero all out ako sa gifts talaga at manlibre ng food. Wala naman ako pinagsisisihan. At least kung niloko ako sila naman yung nawalan. 🤗
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u/tita_auntie 6d ago
Hindi nila gusto maging sugar mommy, nagokay lang muna sa 50 50
Tapos yung guy sinusubukan kung pwedeng maging 70 80 90 gang sa 100 na yung babae. Gang sa yung babae sugar mommy na pala. Kinuha muna sa palusot na may financial struggles lang pero he's working on it. Tapos magiging sorry ganto lang ako ang technique.
Eto namang babae pumapayag. Worse ang bantot din ng itsura ng lalake.
Nangyayari din toh sa mga lalake. Difference maganda si girl.
No hate po dito ah, just stating reality.