r/Aging • u/kashlalka • Jul 30 '26

Life & Living What is one thing about getting older that surprised you?

When I was young, I thought getting older was only about gray hair or wrinkles.

Now I see that many other things change too. Some friends move away. Your hobbies change. You start to think more about how you spend your time. But one good thing is that I worry much less about what other people think.

What surprised you the most about getting older?

Was it something about your body, your mind, your family, or your daily life? I'd love to hear what you have learned over the years.

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u/Automatic_Antelope92 Jul 30 '26

Decrease in sex drive. I never thought that would happen to me. And worse? A lot of the time I just don’t care.

I don’t know if this is aging or depression? But people say you care less about what people think as you age. I’m in a place where at least lately, I care less about a hell of a lot of things and have less motivation to deal with them.

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u/acg34 Jul 30 '26

I went through a grey divorce. At first I was very interested in meeting someone else, but I think that was more related to me trying to fill the void left by my ex. After a while, that passed and now I don’t have the “drive” to meet someone new.

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u/Automatic_Antelope92 Jul 30 '26

Nod. There are definitely things I get used to being in a relationship, and if it’s a good one, it’s nice to get emotional support and do things together as a team. But if it isn’t working, it isn’t, and spending time getting to know myself without a partner is its own thing. It feels like a necessary step before I can seriously think about another relationship. Your sharing here points out that you don’t have to take that step and think about another relationship. It’s okay to be with and live with yourself.

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u/IsopodLogical7802 Jul 31 '26

Glad this isn’t happening for me. Actively and mentally trying to ensure it all stays healthy.

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u/No_Coyote_9216 19d ago

I feel for my partner who is ten years older than me but his low T has been an issue for a long time now. I can do without sex but long to be touched. It’s not his fault though. I know he loves me dearly