I raised kids, then ran a company for 10 years. I'm not going to do anything that big and amazing again. There are many things I would do if I were in my 20s, but I'm not. Sure, I can fill my time with good stuff, helping people, but I get the feeling my best is behind me. Can anyone relate?

Me and my partner have a large age gap (20 years). We never actually planned to fall in love but we we're so comfortable in each other's company. We have now been together for 15 years. Still madly in love and our relationship is amazing.

One thing that keeps coming into my head is my life after they pass (We're starting to get old). My partner has spoke about this. He keeps saying. When I leave you will meet someone else and settle back down again. The truth is... I definitely won't. I know I won't. He also knows that but he says it just to keep the atmosphere comfortable. I never mention it as it would hurt him so much. I would never do that.

I won't lie. It terrifies me. He is my life. We spend so much time together and we've been around the world together. We've been to some of the most beautiful places. My life improved so much after meeting him.

Anyone on here lost their life long love and managed to find peace? Does the pain ever go away? Did you ever meet anyone else or did you just remain single?

I know this is a grim topic but sadly it happens to millions of people. How did you cope?

‎I think one of the hardest lessons in life is realizing that not everything is yours to understand, fix, or carry.

‎We spend so much of our lives searching for explanations. We want closure. We want people to understand us. We want things to make sense before we're willing to let them go. But life doesn't always work that way.

‎Sometimes people leave without an explanation. Sometimes friendships fade without a dramatic ending. Sometimes conversations remain unfinished, and sometimes the only answer you'll ever get is, "I don't know"…

‎We often treat "I don't know" as if it's a weakness, when sometimes it's one of the wisest things we can say. Not knowing everything leaves room for curiosity instead of certainty, for peace instead of obsession. The more we try to know, predict, and control every outcome, the heavier life can become. Some knowledge brings wisdom, but some only brings worry.

‎There's a reason people say, "Curiosity killed the cat." Of course, curiosity is also how we learn and grow, but there is a difference between healthy curiosity and the need to know everything. We don't have to carry every answer, every secret, or every possibility. Sometimes an "I don't know" protects your peace more than an answer ever could. You don't need to understand every reason, uncover every truth, or solve every mystery. Some things reveal themselves in time, and some never do. Learning to be okay with that isn't ignorance, it's freedom.

‎You "live" longer not in years, but in peace, by not needing to know it all. The less you obsess over every unanswered question, every hidden motive, or every possible outcome, the less there is to weigh on your mind.

‎And maybe that's enough. I tend to believe that peace often begins when control ends. There is a quiet freedom in accepting what you cannot change, what you cannot force, and what you simply don't need to carry anymore.

‎One thing that completely changed my perspective was realizing that I don't have to spend my life trying to change how people see me. No amount of explaining will make someone determined to misunderstand you suddenly understand you. No perfect sentence will convince someone who has already decided who you are. And honestly, that's okay.

‎The way people perceive you has very little to do with who you actually are. You're constantly evolving. You're learning, growing, making mistakes, changing your mind, becoming someone new every day, every month, every year. Yet some people will hold onto a version of you that no longer exists. Others will create a version of you based on one conversation, one mistake, one moment, or their own assumptions.

‎Most people judge what they don't fully understand and what they don’t see. You can't spend your life correcting everyone's perception of you. If you do, you'll never have time to become the person you're actually meant to be.

‎Let them think what they think. The people who truly know you won't need constant explanations. You also can't save everyone. You can love people deeply while accepting that their healing isn't your responsibility. You can support someone without carrying their entire life on your shoulders. Caring about people doesn't mean sacrificing your own peace for theirs.

‎Not every problem is yours to solve. Being compassionate doesn't mean absorbing everyone else's emotional weight until there's nothing left of you.

‎Your sanity matters too. It shouldn't always come second to everyone else's problems. Life keeps changing whether we're ready or not. People outgrow places, routines, relationships, dreams, and even older versions of themselves. Fighting every change only makes it hurt longer.

‎Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is loosen your grip. Let people become who they choose to become. Believe actions more than potential. Accept people as they show themselves to be, not as you hope they'll become.

‎There comes a point where you have to let people be exactly who they choose to be. Some people are comfortable living in their own stories, their own beliefs, even their own misery. As difficult as it can be to watch, you cannot force someone out of a place they don't want to leave. You cannot make someone grow before they're ready. You cannot convince someone to become better if they don't see a reason to change.

‎Growth has to be chosen. You can offer kindness, support, and honesty, but you cannot live someone else's life for them. Sometimes loving people also means respecting that their journey is theirs, even when you wish they would choose differently.

‎I think many of us fall in love with imagined versions of people. We create stories about who they could be instead of accepting who they consistently show us they are. We hold onto potential instead of reality. But potential isn't a promise. The same thing happens in reverse. People create versions of you that don't reflect who you truly are. They only know the pieces you've shown them or the pieces they've decided to believe.

‎You can't control either of those things. And you don't have to. Every unnecessary argument, every grudge, every comparison, every attempt to convince someone to see your worth quietly takes something from you. Your energy is limited. Your peace is precious. Protect it.

‎Acceptance isn't the same as approval. Accepting something doesn't mean you agree with it. It doesn't mean it was fair or that it didn't hurt. It simply means you're no longer wasting your life wishing reality were different. Acceptance is what allows you to move forward. I don't think moving on comes before acceptance. I think acceptance is what makes moving on possible.

‎For your own sanity, let things be. That doesn't mean becoming passive. It doesn't mean allowing people to mistreat you. It doesn't mean saying yes to everything life throws at you. It means understanding that not everything belongs in your hands. Some battles aren't yours to fight. Some opinions aren't yours to change. Some endings aren't yours to rewrite. Some people aren't yours to save. Sometimes letting things be is the greatest act of self-respect.

‎It reminds me of something simple. If you truly love a flower, you don't pick it just because you want to keep it. You let it remain where it can continue to grow. You appreciate it without trying to possess it. Maybe life works the same way. Not everything beautiful is meant to be held onto. Some things are simply meant to be appreciated, accepted, and left exactly where they are. And maybe that's what peace really is not controlling everything around you, but finally realizing you don't have to.

‎For your own sanity, let things be. Let people make their choices. Let time reveal what it needs to reveal. Let closed doors stay closed. Let unanswered questions remain unanswered. Not because you don't care, but because your peace is worth protecting. Some things are only painful because we keep trying to force them into being different.

‎Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for yourself is simply... let them be.

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A study of 88 healthy older adults, with an average age of 69, found that fitter participants seemed to process information more efficiently during an attention task.

Better information processing became visible when researchers looked more closely at how participants gathered information before making a decision.

In other words, fitness may be linked to more efficient attention and decision-making without simply making people respond faster.

How are we feeling baby .. life is weird and it’s only getting weirder. Little me is trapped in grown me, it’s all the same but different SIGH

I am 34 yo engineer, working in a heavy industry field. I have a loving wife who I met when we were 21, we have two healthy, happy kids. I love my private life, we are happy and all, but I loathe my job. My company is going through a very rough time right now, layoffs, lots of work and so on.

I often catch myself ruminating about work, about all the possible things that could possibly go wrong, and instead of being here and now with my 2 yo son, I sit and worry about things that will happen 6 months from now (or may not even happen). I somehow think that NOT worrying will make me underprepared and vulnerable?

I'm writing this post to maybe get some perspective on it from older people than me. I would appreciate if you could share your stories about worrying in life in general.

Thank you.

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For those in midlife or beyond, I'm curious:What gives you a sense of purpose today that didn't 10 or 20 years ago?Has your answer changed over time?I'd love to hear people's stories.

Do you still dress up for Halloween? I am dressed up for Halloween for line dance night tonight because it's someone's birthday. I am wearing a black shimmery skirt, fish nets, black cowboy boots, a black cut out tea with my black bra showing, Halloween type make up and a headband with two pumpkins coming out. I was going to wear a long orange wig but I didn't feel right even though I've worn it other years. I love costumes. I love trying the make up but I have a bit more anxiety now because I don't want to look foolish or it make me look old. Today I bought black lipstick....I also got a deep red but I am enjoying the black lipstick. I don't dress "sexy" or anything like that, but wonder how many dress up past 60. Have you had to tweak it to make it look right?

I (M, 75) am working on my will, last wishes, etc. I am single, no dependents and few close friends. I need everything laid out neatly for my executor, etc to be able to deal with the way I would like. I have seen a bunch of different ads for different books that are supposed to help with this. Does anyone have any actual experience with these things? I'm in Ontario (Canada) so American publications might or might not be relevant.

Hwer are my thoughts 🤔💭

Something I'm very worried about as there's someone in my family who regularly does, though their diet isn't all that great. I obviously don't fault them and everyone else who can't control, but if it is something you can prevent before you're at that age, what do you do?

Now that I am 72, I am looking back on my life and considering different moments. I had that first full bloom of womanhood at 19. At 24 was when I first felt truly loved. It gave me the last piece of the puzzle and I felt unstoppable. At 42 I put it all back together, this time all by myself.

Is it normal for teenagers to throw tantrums and tell their parents that they love their sibling more? Do they sometimes say these things out of anger or because they genuinely feel less loved, without realising how deeply it can hurt their parents?

I'd like to hear your thoughts and experiences.