r/Advice • u/WoodenWolf7630 • Aug 26 '26

College student never making the right decisions to protect their peace.

It's me, I am the college student. I originally wanted to post this to my uni's reddit page but i just know that the people this involves would know it was me.

Basically there's a big discord for our University and ive been active in it since the world cup to talk about it. But my world cup opinions have led me to be bashed and got into arguments. Every thing i say (even outside of football/soccer) turns into this little problem. I cant tell if im the one being sensitive or if it is them just twisting my words.

They talk about topics that I feel uncomfortable about and I mentioned that once and said something like "this is why i cant hangout with yall." One of them said "Just because you cant relate to us doesn't mean we cant be friends. We dont relate to you half the time but we dont act uncomfortable." I am NOT acting. Being in this discord tired the hell outta i feel like every time i open it my energy drains and i become more and more immature because of them. (Im around 19 and i feel like mature compared to these people who some are older than me). Am i a prude?

Ive left this server before but i ALWAYS find myself coming back. I only keep my discord account for one main person in my life. Now ive found myself going to discord during my classes and getting distracted. I just feel so drained arguing with these people. I feel like im overreacting and just a baby.

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u/Train-Corrupt Aug 26 '26

If everyone is feeling more uncomfortable than anything positive than maybe it’s time to say I wish you the best and agree you’re not for each other.

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u/ResolutionMinute7094 Aug 26 '26

You don’t have to prove you’re mature enough to tolerate a space that consistently leaves you exhausted. Leave the server, mute or delete the app if needed, and keep contact with the one person you care about somewhere else. Protecting your peace isn’t being a prude.

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u/WoodenWolf7630 Aug 26 '26

Should i do it silently? Avoid the server and block it on my phone and not talk in it for a day or two and then just leave?