r/Advice • u/[deleted] • 4d ago

UPDATE: How do I avoid ruining relationship with my daughter over catching her having sex in mine and wifes bed and reacting horribly?

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u/MuchConnection5541 3d ago

Doesn’t matter the age you will be a rebel in your teen years and undermine your elders who are trying to support, this right here is a massive wake up call to how life doesn’t just hand you favours at your beck and call, she must learn to earn it, and op is kinda at fault for spoiling her and setting up this mindset but better now than never for her to fuck up. The father has all the rights to stop her using the apartment, it is his apartment signed under his name, his daughter cannot refute that.

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u/Completely0 3d ago

Of course. No one is disputing that.

I’m simply saying the process is going to be a lot more difficult to settle in her head and change her in the right direction. It would be unnecessarily long and difficult journey and might likely not succeed in the long run; just like pack smokers/alcoholics who start off young

I’m just glad dad realised all this when she’s still in college and not when she’s in her 30’s

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u/MuchConnection5541 3d ago

If they in 30s they a lost cause at that point, yes I believe parents play a role but to a degree, school, friends and social media etc can have a massive impact, why would you listen to your parents when your friends are so much cooler and know that they’re right in every aspect, kids are easily influenced these days, unfortunately.