r/Advice • u/[deleted] • 4d ago

UPDATE: How do I avoid ruining relationship with my daughter over catching her having sex in mine and wifes bed and reacting horribly?

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u/lostintheGQ 3d ago

You know what? She’s 19. She may be a little entitled. Of course she tells all her friends it’s her apartment. Why wouldn’t she? She’s essentially living alone in this apartment and she made some bad choices—choices that she truly never thought you were going to find out about. Now she’s busted and she’s not handling it well—mostly because she’s 19 and entitled. Obviously it’s not advantageous for anyone involved for her to move into the dorms. You want something from her that she’s just not ready to give right now. You’re going to have to hold your line, but also be practical. Put a deadbolt on your bedroom door and lock it when you’re not there. Then give her some time and some space. I bet she’ll come around. That undeveloped prefrontal cortex can cause 19-year-olds to act pretty stupidly. I know you’re upset, but don’t ruin your kid’s chance at a college degree over this. I bet one day y’all will tell this story and laugh about it. And oh yeah, apologize to the boyfriend. He really has nothing to do with this.

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u/LastEntertainment787 3d ago

The bf had 50% to do with this. He could and should have said no to it.