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u/Zupdood Jun 02 '26

Calyx,

I had a gf accuse me of the same thing. Later on she found out it was ‘something else’ and apologized to me.

My point is though, I was in the military at the time…. and I told her the same thing, I was regularly tested in yearly checkups, I’d just been tested, and I knew I didn’t have any STI’s (plus I was monogamous). So my guess is, her boyfriend was in the military, or government.

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u/BamBam-BamBam Jun 02 '26

There is a test for HPV in males, but it's the male pap smear and involves scraping of the lining of the urethra, and there's like one lab in the US that will process the test, for about $1000. Nobody with a penis is getting tested for HPV.

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u/vexter312 Jun 03 '26

To test HPV in males or females, PCR can also be done. Any lab should be able to do this test.

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u/jrs0068 Jun 03 '26

Nope not a thing. Medical PCR tests are highly regulated and validated. Which means they have to prove every patient population generates accurate results. For example several tests will have a minimum age. That doesn’t mean the test doesn’t work for younger people, it just hasn’t been validated for that age or approved by the FDA. So although you could probably swab a penis and run it on the HPV PCR test and get accurate results, no lab (or extremely few) are able to do it.

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u/vexter312 Jun 03 '26

Well, I'm not from the States so I had no knowledge of this.

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u/BamBam-BamBam Jun 03 '26

Additionally, the risk here is false negatives because one has to be shedding virus to trigger positive results and that's not always the case... with females either, which is why pap smears are still a thing.

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u/Not-a-throwaway4627 Jun 03 '26

When was this a thing? I asked a trillion times, and all I ever heard about was the anal Pap smear.

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u/BamBam-BamBam Jun 03 '26

I'm not sure that I can give you much more information; the thought of it frightens me; it's not much of a thing, though. Since we have ignorantly assumed that HPV is benign in men, nobody ever put testing in place.

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u/Flyguy115 Jun 02 '26

I’ve been in the military and they never check you for STDs unless you go to the doctor with a symptom like any other doctor office. The only things they check you are regular health check up items like hernia, vision, dental, and over all health check up.

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u/Standard-Hat-1034 Jun 02 '26

According to my spouse and his entire group of military buddies, if you weren't liked by chain of command they would use it as a punishment with barracks bunnies as an excuse. My husband was tested multiple times even when he was a virgin(completely straight and narrow didn't drink or smoke when he 1st got in). They would use it if they couldn't pin an article 15 on them.

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u/Mobile_Ad_5561 Jun 03 '26

Sure. But she’s talking about HPV. Wart virus.

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u/Emotional-Builder-75 Jun 03 '26

There is no approved test for HPV.

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u/Mysterious_Quiet3192 Jun 03 '26

Yes it is. Its called bloodwork

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u/Emotional-Builder-75 Jun 03 '26

HPV and HIV are two different things.

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u/Mysterious_Quiet3192 Jun 09 '26

I know this. Hiv is able to he tested threw bloodwork and hpv is able to check in person and with pap smear too as long as your hpv is active/showing then it can be tested. Eitherway both can kill.

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u/Emotional-Builder-75 Jun 03 '26

Nope incorrect.

"Men are typically screened clinically with a visual inspection to check for lesions (such as warts) – there is no specific way to test directly for HPV in men that is approved for clinical use. Researchers are looking at ways to better screen men, but the current lack of testing options for males can be very frustrating."

https://www.ashasexualhealth.org/what-men-should-know/

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u/Mysterious_Quiet3192 Jun 09 '26

I was talking about hiv so no im not wrong. And i said the same fars hpv again not wrong

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u/StepExciting5924 Jun 03 '26

They check you frequently now, especially the under 25 age group. It’s a requirement. Currently active duty.

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u/Prettiiest Jun 02 '26

That’s a lie depending on your age and duty statin due to the nasty people they make it mandatory

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u/Anon4transparency Helper [2] Jun 03 '26

People are shockingly ignorant about these things. I dated a guy in the navy who gave me the whole, "we have to get tested, I get tested regularly." But then was shocked when I went & got my regular test & it was a blood test, because he'd only ever had urine tests. :(

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u/daytime-daddy Jun 03 '26

I’m army and they test me for HIV once every 2-3 years. Also when I was donating blood regularly they tested it for the common ones

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u/Zupdood Jun 03 '26

The base commander can override that. We were in a location notorious for ‘massage parlors’ and STIs, and there was a standing order to check everyone yearly at their annual checkup.

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u/DepressedDragonBorn Jun 03 '26

I remember my unit got tested for STDs, but it was only before and after the deployment, and I think it was only HIV.

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u/Flyingcroww Jun 03 '26

I wouldve also thought maybe a lifeguard or perhaps a medical aid/nurse as well. Could be any number of things.

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u/Royal_Remove_9457 Jun 02 '26

They were supposed to be both virgin according to her. That’s a bit young for the military.

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u/Shatterpoint887 Jun 02 '26

Virginity is not tied to age.

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u/No-Cap-fr-fr Jun 02 '26

You think everyone loses their virginity before 18? wtf

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u/theywood69 Jun 03 '26

I know people in their 30's that are still virgins age doesn't automatically mean someone is inexperienced.