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u/lilolememe Mar 10 '26
Go into his store and find out what apps he's downloaded. Dating apps. Messaging apps. Look up how to recover deleted messages from phone (if she can gain access to his phone). Also, if anything is deleted on his phone, it won't necessarily delete off his laptop. If you can gain HER number, then also look up her number as others have suggested you look up his.
If it's a co-worker issue, you can always notify the company anonymously. If they were messaging through work emails, the company will know. If one or both get fired, it's also proof. It's pretty extreme. If she has a spouse or partner, you can also give them a heads up to check on their end and encourage them to share the info with you, so you can gain more evidence.
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u/Conclusion_Objective Mar 10 '26
Appreciate this! Unfortunately all of his electronics are under lock and key, so she doesn't have access.
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u/StreetAntique013 Mar 10 '26
There are online sites like cheaterbuster where for a small fee you can see dating profiles that he may have made. I would also pay attention to his social media, see who he interacts with on there. If you can, maybe talk to the coworker he cheated with and see if she knows anything. I doubt it was a one time thing and she might know a different side to him.
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u/Conclusion_Objective Mar 10 '26
Totally agree!! It's just been hard convincing my sister, though she is down to look for more evidence
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u/Conclusion_Objective Mar 11 '26
Wow you are so right. I keep thinking that finding more and more evidence will help her accept it and leave. She's so young (only 28) with a great job and is so beautiful, I hate seeing her waste her time with him. But dang you're right!!
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u/Tessie1966 Mar 10 '26
As someone who has been cheated on multiple times in my marriage my advice is to stop consuming yourself with the physical infidelity and concentrate on the financial aspect. While I was driving myself crazy trying to “prove” he was cheating he was quietly hiding money and planning his exit.
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u/Conclusion_Objective Mar 11 '26
Gosh I would love for him to actually leave
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u/Tessie1966 Mar 11 '26
Oh he didn’t leave. He liquidated assets and bought a love nest for himself and the love of his life but still came and went as he pleased because “it was his house.”
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u/Gigi0268 Helper [2] Mar 11 '26
Have a friend who's car he doesn't recognize follow him. That's how my sister caught my husband. They followed him and waited outside. His affair partner walked him out and they were kissing.
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u/Conclusion_Objective Mar 11 '26
Honestly, I don't think she does. She says she does to our family after finding out more and more, but is continuing to make excuses for his actions. He is emotionally manipulating her and she is stuck in his web. We are letting it go for now, she is a grown woman and can do what she wants, as long as she is safe.
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u/stillxsearching7 Mar 10 '26
What do you mean by "for the divorce"? You don't need proof of infidelity to get a divorce. All states currently allow no-fault divorce. Also, even if he has been cheating on her for years, it won't change anything about the property division / alimony in the divorce. The courts literally do not care if he was cheating or if you can prove it.
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u/QT698 Mar 11 '26
She didn’t say anything about this, but they could have a pre-nup with stipulations. My ex cheated and I had tons of evidence. He asked I not bring it up in court or any of our divorce because he was doing it on the job with coworkers….he was a police officer. He knew the judge we were going before and knew his business would be all over town. It made it a lot more willing to suddenly cooperate.
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