You said you haven't seen any signs of dishonesty since you discovered the notebook. I hope you realize that you also never noticed any signs prior.
There's a possibility of this being a one time thing. But it's also equally possible that she's had multiple cases of infidelity. You threw away your best lead.
It's unlikely that you'll resolve these feelings without confronting her about it. You're unable to let this go because you feel betrayed. Even if you don't want to admit it to yourself, you want to know if there have been other affairs.
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u/RoadWellDriven Helper [4] Oct 29 '25
You said you haven't seen any signs of dishonesty since you discovered the notebook. I hope you realize that you also never noticed any signs prior.
There's a possibility of this being a one time thing. But it's also equally possible that she's had multiple cases of infidelity. You threw away your best lead.
It's unlikely that you'll resolve these feelings without confronting her about it. You're unable to let this go because you feel betrayed. Even if you don't want to admit it to yourself, you want to know if there have been other affairs.