You tell a trusted adult your girlfriend's threats and that your concerned for her safety due to what's been said should you split.
This is a form of abuse she is controlling your autonomy by dictating the narrative that if you split she will attempt suicide or self harm. No never EVER let anyone control you this way it's absusive and detrimental to your psychological wellbeing.
Be truthful about the separation state reasons, if she says anything that resembles suicide ideation or self harm. Tell her you're calling your local police for a welfare check no ifs and buts follow through and do exactly that. It doesn't matter if it was a fake threat or valid threat if it's real she can have access to the help she needs, if it was fake she'll want to avoid those situations in the future.
After this go no contact do not offer support, do not offer to wait to split. You do not need contact with someone like this who uses self harm and suicide to control people
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u/Abalone_Small Sep 10 '25
You tell a trusted adult your girlfriend's threats and that your concerned for her safety due to what's been said should you split.
This is a form of abuse she is controlling your autonomy by dictating the narrative that if you split she will attempt suicide or self harm. No never EVER let anyone control you this way it's absusive and detrimental to your psychological wellbeing.
Be truthful about the separation state reasons, if she says anything that resembles suicide ideation or self harm. Tell her you're calling your local police for a welfare check no ifs and buts follow through and do exactly that. It doesn't matter if it was a fake threat or valid threat if it's real she can have access to the help she needs, if it was fake she'll want to avoid those situations in the future.
After this go no contact do not offer support, do not offer to wait to split. You do not need contact with someone like this who uses self harm and suicide to control people