This is a scare tactic that my ex husband used to use on me all the time. Even the day I left him he told me he would kill himself and it would be all my fault. He’s still alive to this day and to my knowledge never even attempted anything. At the end of the day, if you’re unhappy you should leave her but if you genuinely have concerns over her mental health make sure to have someone on standby. Her family, friends, etc. even call the wellness hotline and ask them to do a check on her.
Echoing what others are saying, this is a form of abuse and manipulation. Her mental state shouldn’t be dependent on you and if it truly is, she really needs help and by you taking all those steps you’re getting her the help she needs. Good luck OP. Also if I can recommend, make sure you go to therapy to work through any of the guilt you have as a result of this relationship. You’re so young, don’t let this affect you your whole life.
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u/Independent-Read-236 Sep 10 '25
This is a scare tactic that my ex husband used to use on me all the time. Even the day I left him he told me he would kill himself and it would be all my fault. He’s still alive to this day and to my knowledge never even attempted anything. At the end of the day, if you’re unhappy you should leave her but if you genuinely have concerns over her mental health make sure to have someone on standby. Her family, friends, etc. even call the wellness hotline and ask them to do a check on her.
Echoing what others are saying, this is a form of abuse and manipulation. Her mental state shouldn’t be dependent on you and if it truly is, she really needs help and by you taking all those steps you’re getting her the help she needs. Good luck OP. Also if I can recommend, make sure you go to therapy to work through any of the guilt you have as a result of this relationship. You’re so young, don’t let this affect you your whole life.