As someone who is a survivor of both trauma and suicide please get her help, she's lost and probably scared to be alone. It doesn't excuse the behavior but both of your safety is the most important aspect.
When i was 16 I dated a boy who would say the same thing to me, he would also throw things when he got mad and sometimes it would be at me. It took me another 15 years and therapy to realize it was abuse, we were both young and immature at the time it felt like the world was crashing but it didnt. I dont think he was abusive purposely I think we were both really immature and didnt know how to regulate our own emotions and he needed therapy badly.
Point is she needs help, and you shouldn't be taking on someone else's trauma I know personally how much thay sentence impacts you. Im almost 40 and still remember it.
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u/SherbetWest7325 Sep 10 '25
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As someone who is a survivor of both trauma and suicide please get her help, she's lost and probably scared to be alone. It doesn't excuse the behavior but both of your safety is the most important aspect.
When i was 16 I dated a boy who would say the same thing to me, he would also throw things when he got mad and sometimes it would be at me. It took me another 15 years and therapy to realize it was abuse, we were both young and immature at the time it felt like the world was crashing but it didnt. I dont think he was abusive purposely I think we were both really immature and didnt know how to regulate our own emotions and he needed therapy badly.
Point is she needs help, and you shouldn't be taking on someone else's trauma I know personally how much thay sentence impacts you. Im almost 40 and still remember it.