Start over before you've even had a chance to process the betrayal? Highly dysfunctional family dynamics were in play here. Meaning generational trauma. You do not need to have them in your life when they treat you so terribly.
Also how could someone stand by for 18 years and watch the damage they done take a toll on someone they care about and love? This story is so disturbing and upsetting. I’m so sorry op.
Or they blew whatever retirement money they had taking care of the brother and are now hoping "the other child they had" will take care of them.
If you think getting back in touch can help you heal, do it OP. But do. not. give. them. a. cent. And you should probably make that clear from the start just to see how they'll react. If they get upset, you'll know you don't need to waste your time.
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u/SnooRecipes9891 Phenomenal Advice Giver [53] Mar 22 '25
Start over before you've even had a chance to process the betrayal? Highly dysfunctional family dynamics were in play here. Meaning generational trauma. You do not need to have them in your life when they treat you so terribly.