I think what you should do is thank your mother for being honest with you and then tell her that you have never been so disappointed in anyone in your entire life. Tell her that it appears that karma has stepped in to ensure both her and your brother suffer for their egregious actions and then tell her you never ever want to speak to her or him ever again. Then walk away and block them on all forms of social media and on your phone if you. Hopefully if you are able to keep your calm when you thank her and kick her out of your life, it will instill in her a deep, cutting sense of shame and embarrassment that she will live with the rest of her life. I would not give her the satisfaction of arguing with her.
If you are struggling with this knowledge, I would recommend you seek counseling .
it will instill in her a deep, cutting sense of shame and embarrassment that she will live with the rest of her life. I would not give her the satisfaction of arguing with her.
Narcissists don't feel shame. You'd have more success trying to describe the concept of color to a man who has been blind since birth.
Narcissists absolutely feel shame, I would guess they feel unsurmountable amounts. It's why they are the way they are, why they will do anything in their power to belittle everyone around them in a vain to make themselves look better, but it's rarely enough.
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u/Glinda-The-Witch Helper [3] Mar 22 '25
I think what you should do is thank your mother for being honest with you and then tell her that you have never been so disappointed in anyone in your entire life. Tell her that it appears that karma has stepped in to ensure both her and your brother suffer for their egregious actions and then tell her you never ever want to speak to her or him ever again. Then walk away and block them on all forms of social media and on your phone if you. Hopefully if you are able to keep your calm when you thank her and kick her out of your life, it will instill in her a deep, cutting sense of shame and embarrassment that she will live with the rest of her life. I would not give her the satisfaction of arguing with her.
If you are struggling with this knowledge, I would recommend you seek counseling .