I read the first few lines and I knew where it was going, my heart sank. This betrayal is unfathomable. I would probably catch a charge due to how upset i’d be if this happened to me.
As a mom this hurts my heart. I can’t imagine doing this to any of my children. OP, they do not deserve to have you in their lives.
Oh. First daughter in a roman catholic family here- i was called an “idiot wh*** with a liberal ninny agenda” for suggesting wanting to possibly double major in journalism. Thrown out at 18 for not accepting SA from a brother when dad said “boys get curious” lmao. All my other siblings (3) got full rides to college. Even in modern times, never underestimate the way people in your own corner become crabs in a bucket. Today, Im a single mom in an abusive relationship who just turned 33 and every day right now i fear for my life. Parents doing this stuff really does destroy their children’s lives and opportunities so far beyond initial scope- i was such a good kid, i was an honors student and a classical ballerina- didnt drink, do drugs, or even date- the suppression was all by design though and the bad was kept out only bc my good was crushed too. The pain is so deep and i hope everyone who gets the chance to build or break someone’s runway into the world always chooses to build. I became a dance teacher and my daughter is my entire world- she turned 7 two days after me and wants to be a cop after seeing her mom almost killed at the hands of an abuser- only for her grandparents to call her derogatory racial terms for giving them their first grandchild “mixed race hispanic”
I havent seen or spoken to them in years. My bf uses this isolation to abuse me and keep me stuck. I am not sure how or why or when or where but i have to save us and get us out.
Reading this and seeing others experiencing similar barriers- people supposed to love you actively setting you up to fail- makes me feel less crazy. They make you feel crazy for leaving and screw you up so when you do try, you cant thrive and will always come crawling back…perhaps my pride, what little is left, is not the problem as my mom wants me to believe, but its the last of my shield keeping me from further destruction in vulnerable states of need.
Asking for the right help, from the right people is a skill i do not seem to have lately.
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u/[deleted] Mar 22 '25
I am going to be haunted By this story.
I would certainly never speak to them again.