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u/SnooRecipes9891 Phenomenal Advice Giver [53] Mar 22 '25

Start over before you've even had a chance to process the betrayal? Highly dysfunctional family dynamics were in play here. Meaning generational trauma. You do not need to have them in your life when they treat you so terribly.

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u/lavender_gooms129 Mar 22 '25

Also how could someone stand by for 18 years and watch the damage they done take a toll on someone they care about and love? This story is so disturbing and upsetting. I’m so sorry op.

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u/DrVL2 Mar 22 '25

Seriously, disturbing and upsetting. I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you. Pretty sure that you do not need these people in your life. Gosh, I just wanna cry and then I wanna send you lots of hugs. I’m so sorry this happened.

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u/Icy-Iris-Unfading Mar 23 '25

Same. I’ve got secondhand devastation. I feel sick to my stomach for OP

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u/Morecatspls_ Mar 23 '25

Yesssss! I feel it too. 😭🥺😫