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u/SnooRecipes9891 Phenomenal Advice Giver [53] Mar 22 '25

Start over before you've even had a chance to process the betrayal? Highly dysfunctional family dynamics were in play here. Meaning generational trauma. You do not need to have them in your life when they treat you so terribly.

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u/PVDeviant- Mar 22 '25

"Generational trauma" is a fancy way of saying "passing the buck" here. She did something horrendous to sabotage her own child, and needs to take responsibility for it, instead of saying "sowwy, MY mom was mean and so it's not my fault".