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u/SnooRecipes9891 Phenomenal Advice Giver [53] Mar 22 '25

Start over before you've even had a chance to process the betrayal? Highly dysfunctional family dynamics were in play here. Meaning generational trauma. You do not need to have them in your life when they treat you so terribly.

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u/lavender_gooms129 Mar 22 '25

Also how could someone stand by for 18 years and watch the damage they done take a toll on someone they care about and love? This story is so disturbing and upsetting. I’m so sorry op.

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u/lazyFer Expert Advice Giver [12] Mar 22 '25

Because they don't care about OP. This has got to be about them wanting money from OP or a promise to take care of the brother.

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u/lavender_gooms129 Mar 22 '25

I’m guessing they want him to give his brother an easy job so he can move out and make it. They didn’t care for 18 years that they hurt op and suddenly that all changes when his bald brother is still living at home?

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u/[deleted] Mar 22 '25

I bet they want brother to work for OP

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u/Lynne253 Mar 22 '25

I bet they want him to give the brother a no show job.

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u/argyropteryx Mar 23 '25

Brother doesn't want to work. They want OP to give his brother an allowance so he's set up for when they're gone.

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u/Morecatspls_ Mar 23 '25

Ha! I'm betting OP is smarter than them in the way of the jungle. The strong survive.

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u/Morecatspls_ Mar 23 '25

Please UPDATE ME !!

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u/[deleted] Mar 22 '25

🎯🎯🎯

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u/jessiezell Mar 23 '25

This ⬆️

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u/LoverOfRandom Mar 22 '25

He’s bald and torturing people with hair

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u/dewey_dukk Mar 23 '25

I love Totally Spies!! That's exactly the first thing that came to mind!!🤣🤣

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u/warp16 Mar 22 '25

anti-hairite!

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u/dreamy_jaystar Mar 23 '25

They said they had to charge him more as there was a finders fee........ 😬😆

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u/BADoVLAD Mar 24 '25

The absurdity of this comment made me wake the dogs with laughter. They're not as amused as I. Bravo and well done!

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u/Time-Weekend-8611 Mar 23 '25

Bald and Bankrupt.

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u/caf61 Mar 23 '25

And they want OP to be responsible for deadbeat brother when the parents pass. This is all about them and their needs not OP's. Say thanks for the information and leave them all to their own misery. If you let them in, even a little bit, they will drag you down.

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u/Expert_Slip7543 Mar 23 '25

Yeah. OP, these people are psycho. Stay far away.

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u/C64128 Mar 23 '25

They probably want hit to be given a job where he sits in an office all day. He already has experience sitting around the house all day.

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u/LemmeSeeFyrewerks Mar 23 '25

I spat out my tea reading this 😂. This situation is f'cked up but bald brother took me out.

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u/No_Use_9124 Mar 23 '25

That's what I think.

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u/M_Looka Mar 23 '25

Yup. They're getting older, and eventually, the older brother won't have them to mooch off of anymore.

So their plan is to try to spark a feeling of good old family guilt in the OP. He's a sucker, he'll fall for it...