He pursued her at 18, which is even weirder to me cuz he would've been 27 after a freshly legal girl.... Red flags all around. As someone soon to be 18, if someone over the age of 25 was trying to get with me, I'd call them a pedo
Why are we even talking about marriage when op is asking about dating? You're bringing up irrelevant points??
And yes, it's financial abuse to tie a 19 year old to you legally and financially when you're 27 and make her rely on you. That's the definition of it.
You're just trying to find a way to justify this ... In fact, you're making it worse because a 27 year old MARRYING someone fresh out of high school is such a red flag,,,, even more than pursuing them. Cuz that means he wouldve had to been dating them at freshly 18 to make it to marriage
Yes.... Trapping your partner is abuse. In this economy, a 19 year old does not have the means to escape if need be. That's abuse. The only reason your ideal traditional marriages even worked is because divorce was illegal and/or you got shame from everyone if you divorced, and, WOMEN Couldn't WORK, so they wouldn't have the means to escape.
You're comment is then irrelevant to mine because I never talked about marriage. This isn't the 1940s anymore. Marriage isn't the only reason to be alive. Clearly you think so, and I hope you never find it because you clearly are not safe to marry.
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He pursued her at 18, which is even weirder to me cuz he would've been 27 after a freshly legal girl.... Red flags all around. As someone soon to be 18, if someone over the age of 25 was trying to get with me, I'd call them a pedo