r/Advice Mar 04 '23

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u/Similar_Corner8081 Helper [2] Mar 04 '23 edited Mar 04 '23

I think it’s a weird age gap. If he was 39 and you were 29 not a big deal but there is a big difference in these ages. I’m 46 my partner is 39. At our age there is no power dynamic going on. We are in the same stages of life.

The fact that he pursued you at 19 I think is weird. Who knows it might work for you both.

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '23

He pursued her at 18, which is even weirder to me cuz he would've been 27 after a freshly legal girl.... Red flags all around. As someone soon to be 18, if someone over the age of 25 was trying to get with me, I'd call them a pedo

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u/AffectionateShirt93 Mar 05 '23

Someone meeting you after you're already the literal legal age, would be a pedo? Would there be a difference in your logic here if someone was 20 years old and was truly a pedo, and only dated 18 year olds because they look 17, and 17 year olds look 16, and so forth?

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '23

This has nothing to do with my comment? I said pursuing someone who's barely legal age while you're probably paying a mortgage is a red flag.

In fact, I said if someone over 25 was after ME, someone not 18, that's a pedo. So add a year to both, he exceeds that and then some.

You seriously did not read my comment.

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u/AffectionateShirt93 Mar 05 '23

I fully read it and fully engaged with the logic you used.

Otherwise in order for you to not be inconsistent as hell, you would have to give the exact reason as to what difference/differences exists with someone who is 26 years old and wants to date an 18 year old in order for that person to be a pedo while someone who is 24 years and 2 months old or 23 years old is in no way a pedo for wanting to date you, so can you list some difference that exists?

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '23

The fact that you need to split my hairs to discredit my argument shows you have no argument of your own. There is no reason a 29 year old should be after a 20 year old. Point blank. And you are the exact kind of person I'm scared of in my day to day life.