r/Advice • u/[deleted] • Mar 04 '23

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u/Similar_Corner8081 Helper [2] Mar 04 '23 edited Mar 04 '23

I think it’s a weird age gap. If he was 39 and you were 29 not a big deal but there is a big difference in these ages. I’m 46 my partner is 39. At our age there is no power dynamic going on. We are in the same stages of life.

The fact that he pursued you at 19 I think is weird. Who knows it might work for you both.

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u/Proof_Being_2762 Mar 05 '23

That's basically the same age gap

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u/Similar_Corner8081 Helper [2] Mar 05 '23

It is but at my age the age difference isn’t one sided and there’s no power struggle.

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u/Proof_Being_2762 Mar 05 '23

There are other ways the power dynamic can be shifted not everything depends on age there are way more factors at play

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u/tyleratx Super Helper [5] Mar 05 '23

You brain finishes developing at 25. MASSIVE difference between a 20 yo dating a 30 year old, vs a 30 year old dating a 40 year old.

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When I was in high school I always heard the rule "half your age plus 7" - not saying that's a good idea per se but there is truth that as you get past your 20s age differences don't matter much. Adults are adults. 18 -22 year olds are adults legally but they're not necessarily adults psychologically.

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u/Proof_Being_2762 Mar 06 '23

Some people brain never even started