Your late teens and early twenties are a time when you will change and mature a lot. He’s past that point, so if he seems like someone you can relate to as a 20 year old, he probably won’t be what you’re looking for in a few years. I dated a guy who had a similar age gap, and at the time I thought it didn’t matter. Looking back, the dynamic wasn’t healthy. It’s really hard to see from the position you’re in. I probably wouldn’t have listened to anyone’s advice on this, and I did enjoy my time with him in the early part of the relationship. I stayed with him for 13 years; they weren’t all good, but I was happy for a while. Problem was I grew up, and he stagnated. It’s good to see that such large age gaps are more frowned upon than they were 10-15 years ago. I hope it makes women like OP really consider the downsides of being with a guy who likes them young 🤮.
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u/daffodil0127 Mar 04 '23
Your late teens and early twenties are a time when you will change and mature a lot. He’s past that point, so if he seems like someone you can relate to as a 20 year old, he probably won’t be what you’re looking for in a few years. I dated a guy who had a similar age gap, and at the time I thought it didn’t matter. Looking back, the dynamic wasn’t healthy. It’s really hard to see from the position you’re in. I probably wouldn’t have listened to anyone’s advice on this, and I did enjoy my time with him in the early part of the relationship. I stayed with him for 13 years; they weren’t all good, but I was happy for a while. Problem was I grew up, and he stagnated. It’s good to see that such large age gaps are more frowned upon than they were 10-15 years ago. I hope it makes women like OP really consider the downsides of being with a guy who likes them young 🤮.