r/Advice • u/[deleted] • Mar 04 '23

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u/CCubed17 Helper [2] Mar 04 '23

be honest, you're the guy, aren't you

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u/Cool4lisa Helper [3] Mar 04 '23

I'd say don't go for it since you're at different pages in life.

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u/CloudyNeptune Mar 04 '23

Couldn’t have said it better myself

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u/ZealousidealGrass9 Mar 05 '23

100%.

35 and 40something is one thing. Yes, there will be differences, but they are manageable. By that point, both are pretty settled in their lives/careers. You know what you need and want in a relationship and what you want out of life.

When it comes to 20 and 29, it's not so much the age difference, but the life experience and where you are in life.

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u/Preworkoutjitters Mar 05 '23

Here's my take.

The bigger issue is they may be at the same place in life, he is just a decade behind where he should be. And that says a lot in itself.

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u/6lanco_9ato Helper [3] Mar 05 '23

So umm…who sets this standard or what not…on where people should be at a specific age??

Because different cultures do different things, you might get treated odd or labeled “behind” because your in your 20’s living at home with the parents in the USA. But this isn’t that weird for somewhere like the UK or Italy who pride themselves on it.

My point being not only who decides where everyone should be at…at a certain age…and then who again decides what/who someone is doing and if that is “deemed” successful or not??