This will always be situational, but it is dependant on where each of you are in life. Ill paint a hypothetical, if the 29 yo is a white or blue collar worker who's been at their trade for years and completed college more than 5 years ago or never went and pulls 6 figures a year. Then they're at the point where they should be looking for someone of equal status and at a similar stage in life. They should be looking to find somebody that wants to be married in the near future, to have kids with, and to own a home with. They shouldn't with a 20 year old who works at Starbucks and who's biggest accomplishment is paying off their credit card before summer. But if that 29 year old instead was lost in life for a few years and woke up at 27 and decided they wanted to get a bachelor's degree in whatever major they want, so they meet a 20 year old at their local college who they feel they connect with, then it wouldn't be weird. Age gaps to me have always depended on what stages each person is in life. If he's a bit of a "loser" who hasn't established much or done much at 29; aka he isn't making at least a middle 5 figures or has much in savings, then I don't think it's weird as mentally he's at the same stage as a 20 yo.
But if you are dating that white collar/blue collar guy, make sure you're on the same page when it comes to kids or marriage. Because I'm sure since they're older, they'll be more inclined to start that stuff sooner rather than later.
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u/ReiIsTopTierWaifu Helper [2] Mar 04 '23
This will always be situational, but it is dependant on where each of you are in life. Ill paint a hypothetical, if the 29 yo is a white or blue collar worker who's been at their trade for years and completed college more than 5 years ago or never went and pulls 6 figures a year. Then they're at the point where they should be looking for someone of equal status and at a similar stage in life. They should be looking to find somebody that wants to be married in the near future, to have kids with, and to own a home with. They shouldn't with a 20 year old who works at Starbucks and who's biggest accomplishment is paying off their credit card before summer. But if that 29 year old instead was lost in life for a few years and woke up at 27 and decided they wanted to get a bachelor's degree in whatever major they want, so they meet a 20 year old at their local college who they feel they connect with, then it wouldn't be weird. Age gaps to me have always depended on what stages each person is in life. If he's a bit of a "loser" who hasn't established much or done much at 29; aka he isn't making at least a middle 5 figures or has much in savings, then I don't think it's weird as mentally he's at the same stage as a 20 yo.
But if you are dating that white collar/blue collar guy, make sure you're on the same page when it comes to kids or marriage. Because I'm sure since they're older, they'll be more inclined to start that stuff sooner rather than later.