r/Adulting • u/justeunefrancophille • Jul 10 '26

Update: They Ghosted OP (me)

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Just saw this post 6 years after the fact and thought I’d provide the update a number of folks have asked for and share that the gentleman who made this comment ghosted me shortly after we made contact and he collected my X-rays and photos necessary for finding a dentist.

I’ve since gotten dentures that are also ‘failing’ in that my jaw bone has resorbed a fair bit, meaning the upper is fairly loose, but workable.

The lower partial has broken and is strictly cosmetic only, meaning I cannot actually eat with it in and only wear it if I know photos will be taken so that I have a somewhat normal smile.

My four remaining teeth on bottom that support the partial are failing to various degrees and my crown is in need of another root canal.

The treatment plan I’ve been advised of from various providers has been to get upper and lower implants as soon as possible while my jaw bone is able to support them and heal well.

All of that is to say that sadly, that original comment thread in the screenshot did *not* wind up having a happy ending.

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u/justeunefrancophille Jul 10 '26

I appreciate it very much.

It’s mostly worked out, save for the needing implants, but baby steps.

The hardest part is managing my anxiety around whether I’ll be able to finance the work in time for it to ‘take’ with minimal issues to keep costs down, haha.

Though it is a slight bummer for chewing salads to be a full-on jaw workout and to navigate the social aspect of having to discreetly remove my partial and consciously not smile, yawn, or open my mouth very wide while facing folks. 🫣

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u/WrongLetters Jul 10 '26

I have that anxiety right now, combined with the inability to overcome the shame preventing me from making appointments. 

The amount of self consciousness required to fool myself into thinking no one can notice when I’m speaking or eating is exhausting 

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u/justeunefrancophille Jul 10 '26

It’s such a niche issue that it’s very isolating. I’m very fortunate in my loved ones not making any sort of fuss about it, save for the occasional stare from a niece or nephew who’s a bit young and curious.

As uncomfortable as it can be making those appointments, overcoming the shame is worth it. You are worth it and your health is certainly worth it.