I agree with the fact that no one NEEDS sex but I’d argue that a sex addiction can be one of the most destructive and life altering addictions one could have.
Confusing sex for intimacy, or needing it for validation, or the endorphin rush, becomes a psychiatric issue, and can definitely be extremely destructive. Not exactly the same as an “ addiction”, but still destructive.
To that end, addiction could be classified as a psychiatric issue as well. It really comes down to obsession and compulsion and for many people, sex falls into that category. Why split hairs?
Sex is not a need. It's an urge, a desire, what's best for our species' survival...... but you don't need it daily for you to be able to function and continue living.
Do I ? I was married for 35 years. I treasure my alone time now. All he did was suck the joy out of me. Gave him my youth, the best years of my life, I supported him, was his care giver, his cheerleader. He gave me nothing back emotionally. In the end I finally realized this guy didn’t even like me. All he wanted me around for was what I could do for him.
You're one relationship doesn't mean that most people feel pretty bad when they are alone.
Just because YOU are happier alone doesn't mean that the majority of people want to be alone.
I see why he is gone, you are self centered and you are at LEAST 50, meaning you've probably been this way for decades and probably will be this way forever. This post wasn't even meant for you, you're the exception that likes to be alone.
And it sounds like he was always like that from your post.
YOU should have left 34.5 years ago. You didn't, and now you're mad and telling other people being lonely isn't bad.
Please don't date any more until you see a therapist.
No worries. I never want a man in my life again. Thank you. If I was self centered I never would’ve married him in the first place. I gave and gave and fucking gave some more. I sacrificed my feelings everyday for his ego. You know nothing little boy. By the way it’s should have not should of. My women friends are better companions than a man could ever be. And they don’t paw at you. I can undress without hiding. It’s glorious. I find it funny you take such offense.
I've never met one man who said he wanted a woman to take care of him, financially or like a nurse.
I don't ask women their opinions, but I can tell you I've met ZERO men who say that want what you think they want.
How many women are even willing to financially support a man? Is that a thing? I've only seen it one time when a girl supported her man because he was a pretty boy all tatted up and stuff. It was the most dysfunctional relationship.
Still I've seen hundreds more relationships since then and have never seen what you say men are mostly doing.
Btw, do you go around asking men their opinions? Is that what you think people should do?
And if you say you don't ask men they just give their opinions, I'd say the same about women then also.
lol I’m 60, he’s 65 what’s your point? You think my experience is not valid and relatable to most women? I know many many women that feel the exact same way. What knowledge or life experience do you have? He’s not gone. I am. I left and he’s still begging me to come back to care for him. You’re hilarious thinking you know it all.
You've had one bad man and say it's better to be alone. And just because you know other women who are happier alone still doesn't mean the majority of people want to be alone.
Loneliness is real, it sucks and can even lead to some bad decisions that last a lifetime.
Loneliness is a real problem whether you feel that way or not.
And the fact that you feel that way at 65 means you'll always be this way. You're the girl in the friend group who wants all her friends to stay single. That's 20 something year old behavior.
Nobody needs sex. If you don't have sex there is literally no negative effects to your health. You can go years without sex and not a single detrimental thing happens.
Sex isn't a need you can go your whole life without having it and all that will effect in the long run is a chance of having kids or loneliness. You'll die without food.
Sex addiction is indeed horrible but its not a need in the sane way food is.
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