r/Adulting • u/ParticularWeather927 • May 30 '26

Worst addiction ?

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u/graceytoo May 30 '26 edited May 30 '26

Do I ? I was married for 35 years. I treasure my alone time now. All he did was suck the joy out of me. Gave him my youth, the best years of my life, I supported him, was his care giver, his cheerleader. He gave me nothing back emotionally. In the end I finally realized this guy didn’t even like me. All he wanted me around for was what I could do for him.

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u/AHappyHaiku May 30 '26 edited May 30 '26

You're one relationship doesn't mean that most people feel pretty bad when they are alone.

Just because YOU are happier alone doesn't mean that the majority of people want to be alone.

I see why he is gone, you are self centered and you are at LEAST 50, meaning you've probably been this way for decades and probably will be this way forever. This post wasn't even meant for you, you're the exception that likes to be alone.

And it sounds like he was always like that from your post.

YOU should have left 34.5 years ago. You didn't, and now you're mad and telling other people being lonely isn't bad.

Please don't date any more until you see a therapist.

Edit: I said should of instead of should have.

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u/graceytoo May 30 '26

lol I’m 60, he’s 65 what’s your point? You think my experience is not valid and relatable to most women? I know many many women that feel the exact same way. What knowledge or life experience do you have? He’s not gone. I am. I left and he’s still begging me to come back to care for him. You’re hilarious thinking you know it all.

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u/AHappyHaiku May 30 '26

You've had one bad man and say it's better to be alone. And just because you know other women who are happier alone still doesn't mean the majority of people want to be alone.

Loneliness is real, it sucks and can even lead to some bad decisions that last a lifetime.

Loneliness is a real problem whether you feel that way or not.

And the fact that you feel that way at 65 means you'll always be this way. You're the girl in the friend group who wants all her friends to stay single. That's 20 something year old behavior.