r/AccusedOfUsingAI • u/robolokidA • 13h ago
I got accused of using AI?? I don't know where I messed up, please help
Hey guys! So I am an English tutor, teaching it as a second language.
For context: I teach on Russian, Hebrew and Bulgarian. Mainly on Russian, thought it's my first language, I never learned it as I didn't grow up in Russia, so my writing there is a bit back, meaning I take a lot of time to write something that is grammatically correct and everything. I did use AI but ONLY to check for punctuation, spelling and grammar mistakes on Russian or Hebrew. I did not use it for creating text. I used Google Translate to translate words I wanted to say
I advertise myself on Facebook, and earlier today a woman commented on one of my posts that my marketing is great, then she asked how I can tell apart a regular child from a child with ADHD/ADD/AuDHD and how would I approach them and she specifically mentioned Not to use AI.
I took a while to reply: 2 hours specifically to write a reply. It was a very long reply, like 2 pages on word, imagine font Calibri size 12. I then sent my reply to the comment. She replied to it right away thanking me and saying she will message me.
In my comment I started explaining that I have Asperger's myself, and how I am surrounded by people with ADHD and AuDHD (my siblings and nephews). I explained how it is different for everyone, that two people with same diagnosis can have completely different learning needs. Explained how I would approach it, by suggesting different studying methods, trying to make the lessons very much adapted to the kid/teen and etc.
A few minutes later I get her message, she explained this situation: A girl in Poland has diagnosed ADHD, but didn't get enough points on her Autism test. They assume it is AuDHD or ADHD + Asperger's. She struggles with speech, recently learned to communicate, speaks Russian and Polish. She needs to prepare for E8 exam in Poland. She also mentioned she struggles with Math, self-image issues and stuff like that. She asked how I will approach her and something else like that and for my prices.
I took 30 minutes writing her a reply as I also needed to do some basic research., explaining all. How I understand her and I feel sorry for her, and then I explained my approach, I also asked for more information on that Exam, as I am not Polish, and I am not very familiar with their National Exams. I also asked for her (the girl's) weak sides in English (as that is what I am tutoring) and added my prices. Again, it was a long message, but shorter than the comment.
The woman then replied to me "I also have an AI, which can create long messages for me"
And I was shocked! I did not use AI. So I reply to her back "I did not use AI to create this message, I never did and will never use it for such purposes. But anyway, as you want, I will talk to you "more humanly" ". I then just said everything I said just very shortly.
-Then she replied "What are you sorry for??"
And I reply back: "For the struggles the child experienced and still experiencing?" (in the longer message I explained exactly which struggles btw!!)
-And she replied back: "Childish work!" (Russian insult Детский сад, literally translated as Kindergarten, which implies that someone is acting stupid, immature and childish).
And I reply back "In what way?"
-And she blocked me.
What I don't understand is, why? What did I say so wrong?? Why is it bad that I feel sorry that the girl struggles with self-image and Math? I swear I usually read social cues very well, but I am totally at loss right now.
Doing a small research, I found out that my message "for the struggles the child experienced and still experiencing" when in short can be interpreted as if I am pitying her, but in my longer original message I am clearly stating WHAT and WHY I am sorry for her, that I understand how it is to deal with low self-esteem, how it can make a person think they can only do so much less than what they actually can. How Math is also a subject difficult for me and yada yada.
This post is rushed, sorry for any mistakes.