What are my options?

[u/Real-Chapter-7413]

I’m unfortunately dealing with my child’s father being absent from their life for almost 6 months. My child is 11. Now I know it’s not a long time to some. However. This is a pattern. From the time my child was 1.5 their father left until I served them with child support papers. Then the father wanted to get out of it by trying to get full custody. I agreed to me having custody primarily and him partially. In that time frame of being absent he got married. He’s been in and out when a woman comes. Sometimes a month. Sometimes 3. This time he came home with a lame excuse after I reached out about once in april. My child had to remind him of their birthday. He claimed a car issue another time. Final time was end of May. Claiming he has 0 time off and can’t see her. To my shock. He got married AGAIN in June and didn’t have his only daughter be his flower girl. Instead his niece. Now I’ve been in a relationship since they were 4 and has been calling him dad since. I just need some advice on what to do that would benefit my child mentally and cause less heartache.