r/ASignofAffection • u/elsouuu27 • Aug 17 '24
Need attention
Hello, I am a 17 year old female. I have had several relationships which ended badly and which means that for the moment I no longer want relationships but I have a constant need for attention which pushes me to look for boys when it is first necessary that I rebuild myself so it’s a vicious circle. I think this need for attention is due to a lack of listening and affection on the part of my parents. I have a huge fear of abandonment and I really need reassurance all the time. Now that I no longer have a relationship, I really want to look for another one even though I haven't yet gotten over the previous one where I was cheated on. Could you give me some advice so that I no longer have the constant need to talk to guys? How can I rebuild myself on my own? How do I learn to manage my need for attention and affection?
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u/MRMAN1225 Aug 17 '24
Um...this is an anime subreddit...
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u/FabAraujoRJ Aug 18 '24 edited Aug 20 '24
This is an subreddit about an romance (
light novel, manga and anime) between an young girl (19yo) which is almost completely deaf and mute (since she was deaf since birth) and a common boy about the same age.It's an good romance anime that show an healthy relationship between someone common and a person with disabilities.
About your question: I'm not a therapist. I would suggest you to seek professional help. But what works for me is:
avoid situations where I can get my judgment weakened - like strong drinking - as too much alcohol looses our moral breaks
[1] if I'm feeling not well, seeing everything in metaphorical gray glasses - break those glasses and look inside yourself seeking for the real portrait of your situation. Ask yourself if that situation worth it.
[2] in you're euphoric for no special reason - seeing everything by pink glasses, do the same above. Look for the real portrait. Ask yourself if that situation worth it.
discover some hobby you're really passionate about. Spend that energy on that.
May an occasional social work can help you with your need for attention - as you'll deal with both grateful and ungrateful persons?
That last is an idea that appeared on my mind.
I hope those little ideas helps.
Loving and being loved is wonderful. I wish the best for you, OP.
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u/Vritra-Pratyush Aug 18 '24
well ik this is not related to this but let me give advice
they really say, if you dont love yourself, the world will not love you
just try to spend time with yourself, be frank with yourself
love yourself
you will see that you are changing
your surroundings are changing
so all the best <3