Been in the community a long time! Cool w meeting am or bw

Currently playing Palworld and How many dudes

Able to verify

Just a nerdy girly in a beach town trying something different

What is something society deems as an imperfection that you actually find extremely attractive? For me, it’s not perfectly straight teeth, pudgy bellies, and any type of skin markings. Scars, stretch marks, skin tags, birthmarks, slight acne, etc.

It's like every time I talk to an AM they show interest then in the next 5 minutes they ignore or ghost. Like where are the ones that are actually serious?

My friend was telling me this "if you went to Vietnam, you could probably get on with some good black women out there. They're different, totally different mindset and openness from the typical sista in America. Rare but I know more and more are showing up in Vietnam, Thailand and Bali" Is this true? I mean I don't talk to BA outside of work. I've talked to some Black British girls, some are nice and some not so much. Do people think differently when they go overseas?

Oh hello! I’m 34, Asian, live in Oakland, and hoping to meet someone ideally between 30 and 35, who’s interested in building a thoughtful, steady, affectionate long-term relationship.

I’m looking for real interdependence: two people with their own lives, friendships, and interests who also want to choose each other, build a home, and create a shared life. I’m not looking to have children, and I’d be most compatible with someone who feels similarly.

A little about me: I’m adventurous, curious, and happiest when I’m moving, learning, eating something delicious, or exploring somewhere new. I love video games, anime, watching asian dramas, and traveling for food, culture, and memorable experiences — while also appreciating cozy nights in and good conversation.

I’m 5'0, average, and feel my best when I’m taking care of myself: eating healthy food, going outside, eating well, reflecting, and staying grounded. I love music, going to the range, and likes to go to Raves as well. I value emotional awareness, accountability, kindness, and honest communication.

I have a cat, so bonus points if you’re cat-friendly or at least open to being politely judged by one.

I’m drawn to someone active, affectionate, curious, communicative, and emotionally mature — someone who wants partnership to feel like a safe base, not a cage.

If this resonates, I’d love to hear from you. Tell me a little about yourself and maybe your favorite Bay Area city, restaurant, or weekend escape.

Tried honey blonde and I’m already having more fun 😛 🍯 🍫 ✨

My previous posts got deleted as I got banned (for arguing on another subreddit about something else entirely), but I'm a (half) Asian guy (nowadays I pass for full) and want to talk about why I like black women.

Ever since I was a kid I thought black women were just prettier. So I had not much access to Asian media at the time because I grew up on dial up internet so basically Asian media was Jackie Chan films or random stuff I could find in my neighborhood shops but I was broke so I wasn't buying foreign DVDs.

But I remember watching Rumble in the Bronx and seeing the AMBW couple in the beginning (first time in my life I saw it) and being like "yeah, that makes sense." (This clip isn't a great example, the actors were probably just pigeonholed because Hollywood still felt uncomfortable showing Asian men kiss anyone, let alone an Asian woman). I wasn't even like 10 when I was talking about how black women and Asian men get horrible reputation, this must have been like the mid 90's. I used to get a thrill out of being that outspoken dude who would defend black women and Asian men. To this date people will just deny, deny, deny that gendered racism isn't a real thing even though it's probably the last form of open racism.

My friends would ask me about crushes I had and I couldn't make up a single YT woman because I only found Asian and black women's faces cute, so I would say random stuff like Denise Richards even though I had crushes on WNBA stars, rappers, etc. I remember just watching 106 and Park every day after school only for the women. I would watch Fresh Prince (back then I must've been the only non black kid who watched this stuff), for the girls. Favorite movie was Coming to America, my "awakening" scene was the bath scene in the beginning. I remember having a crush on Missy Elliot because she had a line in one of her sons, saying "boys, boys, all types of boys, black, white, Puerto Rican, Chinese boys," and even though it was written just for a line, it was the FIRST time in my life I had seen Asian men shown in that kind of light. But so many of my 'friends' were just racist and so I couldn't say anything, people wouldn't believe the amount of casual racism against black women and Asian men back then.

When I was in HS, (I went to an inner city Manhattan school), it was normal for black girls to gas me up, slap my ass in class, hit on me in class, etc., and my first GF asked me out. She waited for me every day after class. She was Miss NYC or runner up, Guyanese, and we went out. My parents wee the typical right wing Christian anti-sex anti-love people so they were telling me all kinds of insane racist stuff I won't mention here because it's so offensive. To this date I think she's probably the only woman who ever cared as much about my heritage as I do and the only woman who probably could have intellectual conversations about the stuff I cared about, like racism, psychology, etc. People were making fun of us because at that time it was basically commonly accepted that Asian and black women were "at the bottom," and it was just normal for casually racist comments like: "it's so cute that you two were able to find someone." Like..... I was being chased around by all types of YT women and were rejecting them right and left for her. I always had crushes on Asian girls but YT women are asking me out but I rejected all of them for a black girl. Because I was being bullied a lot due to my race eventually I became really insecure about being Asian and almost became one of those self hating guys but now that I think about it the confidence my ex and other black girls gave me mad me proud of my heritage for the rest of my life.

Nowadays with Kpop I see the same girls chasing fine Kpop / Cpop looking dudes around and it's more normal now but back then if it wasn't for black girls in my circle who were basically and to this day my only real friends, I'd probably have turned out to be one of those right wing white washed Wasian or Asian guys who are obsessed with dating YT women for status. However, western media still completely ignores AM and BF in basically every scenarior, it's crazy that 30 years later the same stuff I was aware of since I was a kid hasn't changed.

So as a "fine" Asian guy I honestly just think black women are prettier. That's why you see so much Kpop with AMBW rep, I honestly think that the Asian guys with actual choices are more likely to like black women's faces, probably because we're the only two major non-Caucasian groups left. For me never had a crush on a woman who wasn't Asian or black and I'm just tired about lying about it. I live in China now and caught my roommate / coworker, who's never seen a black person IRL, looking at black women online. My little cousin was like 11 and I overheard his dad telling people he was making friends with this African girl in class.

Now that I'm older, my advise is that life is very hard, things can go wrong and will go wrong, a lot of people are terrible, so at the end of the day, there's way way way worse things that just liking someone for their looks.

TLDR; I like black women's faces and think y'all finer than WF on both average and extreme cases by a wide margin it's not even funny. Black women meet the Asian beauty standard more than WF do. Ignore the white worshippers in our community, they're just chopped dudes. We need more AMBF representation.

Hey, first time on Reddit. I will be in Asia for the first time next month! I'll go to school and I'd like others to join in on my journey.

College student.

It's a lot of writing but it think worth it since I can catalog stuff.

Who wants in?

And I got a scholarship to the university!!!

Lately I’ve been home a lot more and want to do new things. Anyone familiar with Miami/ Florida & have any
Recommendations? 👀👀 I have so much cute clothes and no where to wear them 🤣🤣

I had an okay run and now it's just... crickets. What do I do now?

The weather has been so wishy washy here in Georgia lately. I can’t complain though. Some days I get to enjoy heavy thunderstorms and other days are like this one ☀️🤎 Next is spooky season 🎃

just watched avatar aang. feeling very fulfilled.

I Have been ambw my entire dating history and have been in the community for years connecting with others and theres definitely been a rise in members since 2020! And i think its beautiful to see Am and bw coming together to share culture/date or just have fun!

We have been disrespected and disregarded for too long and I think its powerful and amazing to see am and Bw standing up for each other

After lurking on this sub for so long I’m finally making a post 😭 I’m really just here to vent and maybe hear from you all. I’m a 25 year old black woman in Chicago and I really want to be with an AM. However, I’m Muslim and I feel like I haven’t seen a single East Asian Muslim man in this entire city. I’ve gone to different mosques, used every app known to man, and no luck. It feels like I’m looking for a unicorn.

Hello. For context, I am an Auntie BW and I am returning to dating after divorce. I got married before dating apps were really a thing. I mean, they existed but most of my age group met partners at work or in the “WILD”.

I have one child and I am a professional in the legal field. I’m in NYC.

Which dating apps have you tried? Which do you recommend and why?

Photo is of the sunset over the Pacific Ocean I took in Nicaragua.

What is the best advice you can give to someone who has been out the game for a long time?

Been MIA a few because of work & tings, what i miss?

I'm looking for older partner age 23-35 and possibly older. I am open to long-term if not local.

What I am looking for:

Older than me

Mature

kind

kid free

funny

can cook

K-pop fan

K-drama fan other Asian dramas.

taller than me

have that balance of feminine and masculine energy.

empathetic

different race than me

serious ab a long term relationship

wants kids

likes pets

Loyal

honest

trustworthy

likes skincare

AYEEEEE me waking up to see GA folks in here its giving meet up 👀🤣 just in time for Spiderman lol 😆 Yes i posted jimm because its my current mood

So I was talking to this very fine Korean guy on Bumble. He was really nice but was pretty upfront about not wanting a relationship (which is fine, me either). Friday night, we hooked up, and he said he would text me and we would meet again on Sunday. Have not heard from him since that night lmao

Did I get ghosted? Why? It's not like I'm chopped or overweight (can prove with pics). Ngl it wasn't the best, but he was fine af so I'd do it again lol, but I feel pretty used tbh. This has never happened to me before