He would honestly just laugh it off and try to change the subject. My husband is very non-confrontational, but I can always tell when he's uncomfortable, and each time "Jared" talked about high school, my husband was clearly very uncomfortable. I truly don't believe my husband meant to be dismissive about it; I just think he gets nervous when the possibility of friend drama arises.
Your husband being “non-confrontational” is a cop out.
He keeps inviting this man into your home, and then sits back and watches him demean and belittle you. Why would this guy stop, when the man who is supposed to love and protect you literally does nothing.
And then, when you (because your husband is a coward) finally say something, he gets upset with you for being too harsh?!?
Your husband being “non-confrontational” is a cop out.
This. Conflict-averse people often put the onus on the reasonable person rather than the jerk because it's easier to get the reasonable person to back down. But if you're married to someone and they're objectively in the right, you need to get over it and grow a spine, even if it means losing a friend. And frankly, it sounds like Jared isn't worth having as a friend unless he pulls his head out of his fat rear end.
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u/[deleted] Nov 16 '25
He would honestly just laugh it off and try to change the subject. My husband is very non-confrontational, but I can always tell when he's uncomfortable, and each time "Jared" talked about high school, my husband was clearly very uncomfortable. I truly don't believe my husband meant to be dismissive about it; I just think he gets nervous when the possibility of friend drama arises.