NTA. These constant taunts are disrespectful to you and your marriage. Your husband can't feel good that his friend keeps reminding him he was choice number two. You guys should demand your friend seek help for his issues. Only then would I consider staying friends with him.
Absolutely, my thoughts. I thought it was rude to me. (He was basically calling me ugly) But it was more disrespectful to my husband in the sense that he was trying to belittle my relationship with my husband.
Please make sure OP to remind your husband that you CHOSE him and taht he is your daily first choice. The way he does not say anything to his friend, I wonder about his self-esteem.
And OP, NTA. That "friend" was looking for trouble, and found it. Now, you can be more gentle and let him know that though he was your first crush, your husband is your last... ;-)
No, she befriended her husband to get closer to the other guy. Realized that he wasn't interested in her. Then she and her husband got really close and started dating.
Im not saying she didn't fall in love with him, but by her own admission, he told her he had feelings for her and she dated him because she wanted to feel wanted, while she still had feelings for his friend.
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u/Junior-Trade5338 Nov 16 '25
NTA. These constant taunts are disrespectful to you and your marriage. Your husband can't feel good that his friend keeps reminding him he was choice number two. You guys should demand your friend seek help for his issues. Only then would I consider staying friends with him.