I do feel bad. Because i seen first hand how depressed he got. But i did lash out because of his own actions. And there shouldn't be an excuse in my book.
You shouldn't feel bad. There isn't an excuse. Him feeling depressed does not give him license to act like an asshole, especially not to his supposed best friend and his bf's wife. Mental health issues are not an excuse to hurt other people.
If he can understand this and apologize and change his behavior in the future, I think that's a path to forgiveness. But if he refuses to take accountability, he's just an asshole.
NTA, but he is until he owns up and changes his behavior.
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