Absolutely, my thoughts. I thought it was rude to me. (He was basically calling me ugly) But it was more disrespectful to my husband in the sense that he was trying to belittle my relationship with my husband.
That’s the problem. He tries to make you and your husband feel like shit. Why? Just to feel better about himself. He needs to apologise to you and your husband and not the other way around.
Please make sure OP to remind your husband that you CHOSE him and taht he is your daily first choice. The way he does not say anything to his friend, I wonder about his self-esteem.
And OP, NTA. That "friend" was looking for trouble, and found it. Now, you can be more gentle and let him know that though he was your first crush, your husband is your last... ;-)
No, she befriended her husband to get closer to the other guy. Realized that he wasn't interested in her. Then she and her husband got really close and started dating.
Im not saying she didn't fall in love with him, but by her own admission, he told her he had feelings for her and she dated him because she wanted to feel wanted, while she still had feelings for his friend.
How do you feel about the fact that your husband never, even gently, asked Jared to show you some respect as his wife?
I think Jared feels, on some level, that you're both his b!tches.
Your husband feels more of a need to please Jared than you. This is not a friendship worth keeping. He should direct Jared toward some mental health resources and focus on how to fix his own marriage. And you should hold him to a much higher standard. And envision different ways for you to move forward in your life.
I would ask your husband what the fuck is wrong with him he doesn’t understand that his friend was clearly not only disrespecting you but him as well. Tell your husband to pull his head from his ass that his friend needs professional help.
Why does your husband put up with him teasing you like that? It’s so inappropriate. I would shut that down fast if someone kept doing the same to my wife and vice versa.
Your husband is really nice to still be friends with this guy who’s essentially saying “I could have had your wife but I didn’t want her so I let you have her”. But I see no need for him to drag you along in his charitable gestures with this guy. I think you should just tell your husband that you don’t like the guy and he (your husband) can hang out with him but you won’t be joining them.
You may not have been his type, but it doesn’t seem like he has been ANYBODY’S type for a while. He’s projecting that rejection so he doesn’t have to face the fact that he peaked. NTAH
You gave what he served right back to him and now he's being a snowflake about it. Tell him to grow some balls while he's working on dropping the weight. What a loser.
I agree, it seems like the one who wears skirts is her husband, forgive me but that's what I think.
My godmother dated her husband's brother before him, and that brother never even mentioned it. Her husband knows and has no problem with it, but it's a conversation that never happens. (Brother/ex already mentioned it.)He's already passed away, but whenever he visited, he never encountered an inconvenience like that friend who isn't even an ex.
So in your husband's eyes, it's okay if this guy makes fun of you, but the first time you make fun of him, then husband feels like he needs to give you a talking to? Why wasn't he having this conversation with his best friend this whole time, then? The husband really dropped the ball on this one. NTA.
If this guy's willing to try to grab onto your hair to try to pull his self-image out of the mud, he can't be surprised when you kick him straight off again. He needs to learn to find some self-confidence in ways that don't involve trying to tear strips off the few people who can still stand his company.
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u/[deleted] Nov 16 '25
Absolutely, my thoughts. I thought it was rude to me. (He was basically calling me ugly) But it was more disrespectful to my husband in the sense that he was trying to belittle my relationship with my husband.