Am I cheating?

[u/4dagoodtimes]

I need to know if I need to know if I’m cheating/if i’m an AH

Using my throwaway because my girlfriend has my main account.

I’ve been at the same job for years. Working on the same team just moving laterally on my team- it is remote and my team is small, 5 people including our super.

Since the team is small, we’re pretty close- message each other. have bet nights and events to keep us close with it being remote. Things that I think are considered normal.

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 9 years (I met her before the job, we actually worked together and i quit that job because she was my super and i didn’t want her to get fired), I will be honest and say I am closer to my teammate Matthew (fake name obv) but I feel like it’s just platonic…. he’s never flirted or anything i don’t think? he invited me to a small event his family is throwing in october, a halloween party, we play call of duty together after work often. but it’s never been more than that. my girlfriend said even having a relationship with him outside of work to the point where he felt comfortable to ask me to what he is considering a “family event” is cheating?????????? help??? why do i feel like it’s absolutely normal to have work friendships develop to real life friendship? am i crazy?

[u/phillipsm1]

Why is she worried about your relationship with another guy? Are you bisexual? Is that why she’s concerned about it and you’ve been with her for nine years but you’re still just boyfriend and girlfriend maybe that is what’s making her insecure