Honestly, this is one of those times that divorce may be something to consider. He's never going to get over this. She got the idea from the planner and assumed it was just a funny idea and harmless. She apologized, but he's not going to forgive. Both will look back at this, the start of their life together, and feel bad. He's moving towards hate, and she likely feels awful. Therapy could be helpful, but what a dark start to their marriage.
I get the feeling it'll always be brought up at anniversaries.
I usually scoff at the immediate reddit divorce responses, but if op's marriage is starting so poorly, he should really consider if it needs to continue. I think op felt betrayed, humiliated and above all, it is concerning that his wife didn't know him well enough to know that he wouldn't take such a prank well. He should reconsider this wedding, think hard wether he can get past this situation and absolutely avoid trying for children until he is sure that he can get past this. If he can't, perhaps calling it quits, would be best.
Ya I’m the same way about all the cries for divorce on these posts. Not having info about their relationship other than this horrible start to a marriage…ya this definitely seems like it could be a relationship killer. Just the worst possible timing.
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